Lessons from the Shepherds

I’ve been thinking about the shepherds in the Christmas story. Usually, we focus on the main characters…Mary, Joseph, the angel and the baby Jesus. But, the shepherds were a pretty important part too. How did the story come down for the shepherds?

"And there were shepherds living out in the fields nearby, keeping watch over their flocks at night. An Angel of the Lord appeared to them, and the glory of the Lord shone around them shone around them, and they were terrified. But the angel said to them, "Do not be afraid. I bring you good news that will cause great joy for all the people. Today in the town of David a Savior has been born to you; he is the Messiah, the Lord. This will be a sign to you. You will find a baby wrapped in cloths and lying in a manger." Luke 2:8-12

So, the shepherds were just out in the fields doing their job. They were on the night shift, most likely tending to the sheep outside Bethlehem. Their job was to guard the sheep from human and animal predators. They might go for nights without any issues at all, but still, they needed to be awake and ready for anything to happen.

But this one night.... the shepherds must have stopped dead in their tracks. All at once a brilliant light nearly blinded their eyes! This was unlike anything they’d ever seen! Can you picture their big eyes staring at the light, wondering what was going on? They immediately were terrified. (This is where I bet you and I would be feeling the same thing!)  Then, the angel left. Wow. I can only imagine the shepherds looking a bit dazed..... "Did you just hear I what I heard and see what I saw?" Then, in Luke 2:15-16 we find the shepherds making plans "Let us go to Bethlehem and see this thing that has happened, which the Lord has told us about." So they hurried off straight from work to go visit the baby Jesus.

The shepherds were just everyday normal people with no special credentials. Yet, they were were invited to participate in the most extraordinary event on earth, the birth of Jesus. And, they responded and acted on what they heard. They went quickly to see the baby Jesus.

Let’s not miss this simple lesson from the shepherds. The shepherds could have all sorts of excuses…What if we leave the sheep unattended? What if something happens to the sheep and we’ll be blamed? What if our boss found out we had left the sheep? What if others make fun of us for going? What if we were mistaken about what we heard? It’s easy to second-guess the voice of God.  

We can learn from the shepherds in our own lives. How do you respond to God? Are you content to keep God at arm’s distance for another year? Will you come to Him or run in a hundred different directions?  Learn from the shepherds who dropped everything to follow God. Dare to act and respond to the Christmas message. This message can rock your world too.

"The shepherds returned, glorifying and praising God for all the things they had heard and seen, which were just as they had been told." Luke 2:20

Nancy Abbott is the Chaplain for the YMCA of Greater San Antonio.

Snow in San Antonio!

The wonder of Christmas hit San Antonio last Thursday night in a flurry. Yes, beautiful big white flurries blanketed the area on that still night, all to the glee of children and adults alike. It was whimsical, nostalgic and magical. Who would have thought? Snow in San Antonio!

O little town of Bethlehem, how still we see thee lie! Above thy deep and dreamless sleep the silent starts go by. Yet in the dark streets shineth the everlasting Light; The hopes and fears of all the years are met in thee tonight.

I wonder if that night long ago in Bethlehem was somewhat like our snowy night? The stars glistening against the dark streets. Mary and Joseph knocking out thousands of steps in the cold as they searched for a place to have their baby. Could those in Bethlehem even comprehend at all what took place that night? Never in a million years would they have expected Jesus to be born THERE!

How silently, how silently, the wondrous Gift is giv’n; So God imparts to human hearts the blessings of His Heav’n. No ear may hear His coming, but in this world of sin, Where meek souls will receive Him still, the dear Christ enters in.

What a gift we received that night in San Antonio. No one believed it at first. Until we saw for ourselves. It really WAS snowing! Any burdens or worries we carried seemed to vanish instantly, as we took in the snow. Grown ups became like children, playing with delight in the snow. Children squealed in excitement as they created their first EVER snow man.

O holy Child of Bethlehem, descend to us, we pray; Cast out our sin, and enter in, be born in us today. We hear the Christmas angels the great glad tidings tell: O come to us, abide with us, our Lord Emmanuel!

Could it be that the magic of Christmas is found in the unexpected, least likely corners of the world? Could it be that the Holy Child of Bethlehem COULD descend to each of us? O come to us, abide with us, our Lord Emmanuel! God, would you surprise us with a glimpse of the wonder of Christmas?

“But you, O Bethlehem Ephrathah, who are too little to be among the clans of Judah, from you shall come forth for me one who is to be ruler in Israel, whose coming forth is from old, from ancient days.” Micah 5:2

* (Phillip Brooks (1835-1903) of Philadelphia, wrote the words to O Little Town of Bethlehem in 1868, following a pilgrimage to the Holy Land. He was inspired by the view of Bethlehem from the hills of Palestine, especially at night time.)

Nancy Abbott is the Chaplain for the YMCA of Greater San Antonio.

Christmas Overflow

I made my favorite whole-wheat rolls for our family gathering this past Thanksgiving. It’s a bit of a production, given that I grind wheat berries to make the flour, add a ton of yeast and then knead it all together in my Bosch. This year, I placed the dough in the fridge over night. In the morning, the dough had grown beyond the confines of the bowl!

I have a pretty good picture in my mind of the bread dough living it up and partying in the fridge that night! It had no need to restrain or confine itself. It was fit to be free! It just kept overflowing, and nothing stopped it.

I want my life to overflow with the Gospel just like that bread dough. Always. Every day, especially at the Advent season. I want to see Jesus’ manger getting bigger and bigger in my heart and me getting smaller and smaller. I want to give lots of grace to others and be less irritated when in traffic and crowds. I want to give bigger tips and more thank you’s and fewer complaints. I want to overflow with kindness and God-given patience when I have to waited long enough. I want to freely love those that are hard to love. I want to sip the joys of this Advent season, slowly and reflectively, refusing to give in to the craziness around me. Just like the bread. Unhindered. Overflowing. Free.

What keeps you from living out of God’s abundance? The news and unrest of our day? The stress of shopping? The craziness of the season? Before you know it, a cranky spirit can take over and we can become an all out Grinch. Judging. Evaluating. Complaining. Gossiping. Irritable. Our Grinch-like attitudes don’t have to steal away our Christmas joy!

Stop and think about the next 21 days leading up to Christmas. Start today knowing that God is right there to help you live in this kind of abundance.

“I pray that your love will overflow more and more, and you will keep on growing in knowledge and understanding. For I want you to understand what really matters, so that you may live pure and blameless lives until the day of Christ’s return. May you always be filled with the fruit of your salvation- the righteous character produced in your life by Jesus Christ- for this will bring much glory and praise to God.”  Philippians 1:9-11

“May the Lord make your love increase and overflow for each other and for everyone else, just as ours does for you.” 1 Thessalonians 3:12

Nancy Abbott is the Chaplain for the YMCA of Greater San Antonio.

Giving the Gift of Grace

Well, it's that time of the year to start putting together our Christmas lists and checking them twice. So, who really is naughty and nice in your world? Are you keeping track? We keep track more than we know.

Isn't it easy to find fault with others? I think all of us are susceptible to this. I certainly am! Whether we know it or not, we're basically trying to prove we're smarter, better, happier, wealthier, etc. What if others don't do what we ask or what we think is right? How about when family, co-workers and friends fail to meet our expectations? We can get downright cold-hearted and cruel toward others. One wrong turn and they're on our "naughty" list. Somehow, our "naughty" list is truly justified in our minds.

Honestly, I don't want anyone to be on my "naughty" list! I actually have the ability to put an end to this hypocritical spirit! And you do too! When we find fault with others, we elevate our status and forget the mercy God has shown each one of us. The Pharisees in the Bible were a good example of a hypocritical spirit. They were blinded to their own sin and to God's mercy. Instead they were cold-hearted and cruel toward other people. Take note of Jesus' warning toward them: "Woe to you, scribes and Pharisees, hypocrites! For you are like whitewashed tombs, which outwardly appear beautiful, but within are full of dead people's bones and all uncleanness." (Matthew 23:27)

When you're tempted to find fault with others, either in your mind, verbally or on social media- STOP!!!! Consider Jesus' warning and take a good hard look at your own life. If we truly understood the judgment we deserve from God, why in the world would we find fault with others?

God offers grace and mercy through His Son Jesus Christ. I'm so thankful for Jesus forgiving my sins and receiving the gift of grace! I would be a mess without God in my life! Jesus actually said "Freely you received, freely give." (Matthew 10:8) So, I can freely extend God's love and grace to those around me, simply because of the gift I've received!

Time to be honest. How would you personally answer these three questions? How do I find fault with others? With whom do I withhold grace from? Who am I to judge other people? How can I give the gift of grace this December?

The gift of grace is pretty amazing.  Receive the gift of grace that God freely gives. Extend that grace to others. You will never be the same.

"Always be humble and gentle. Patiently put up with each other and love each other. Try your best to let God's Spirit keep your hearts united. Do this by living in peace." Ephesians 4:2,3

Nancy Abbott is the Chaplain for the YMCA of Greater San Antonio.

Refreshing Others

Maybe the Thanksgiving holiday can’t come quick enough for you. Perhaps, you, like me, have been in a busy season, and looking forward to a break. A pause. A chance to slow down and experience refreshment, whatever that looks like to you. If your soul is a bit parched like mine, your temptation may be to simply take care of yourself. What if, instead, you looked for ways to bless and refresh others?

Thanksgiving literally calls us to get outside our self and be a thankful people for the many gifts God has blessed us with. One of those gifts is the gift of people in our lives. Family. Friends. Work associates. Those that serve us-from the Startbucks' barista to the attendant at the dry cleaners.

Sometimes, I can get so busy with my schedule and to-do list that I fail to think about those friends and family who are precious to me.  How can you and I bring refreshment to those around our table this Thanksgiving? How can we get outside ourselves and focus more on others than self? Instead of being served, can we look for ways to serve, even when the football game is calling? Who can you serve that can’t serve you back?

I know that Christ is the refresher of all refreshers. As we receive from Jesus, we can freely give to others. Who was better at refreshing others than Jesus? Jesus breathed life into weary souls. Jesus brought encouragement and kindness to those in His midst.  And He told us to as well. Jesus told His followers, “Give, and it will be given to you. A good measure, pressed down, shaken together and running over, will be poured into your lap.” (Luke 6:38)

So, why focus on refreshing others? We give because God’s love compels us to. We give, because we can. We give, because He first gave to us. Jesus demonstrates to us how to bless and refresh others. He was really good at doing this, right?

So, why not ask God to help you bless and refresh those in your midst? Ask for help to notice, really notice people. Ask Him for help in seeing ways to serve and bless others. Stop thinking about yourself and focus on others.  And consider the beautiful outcome… You will be blessed by blessing others.  Such a reminder that this kind of living is something God smiles at.

“Whoever refreshes others will be refreshed.” Proverbs 11:25

Nancy Abbott is the Chaplain for the YMCA of Greater San Antonio.

Tears in a Bottle

It was 10:30 am, on Sunday, November 5. Ben and I, along with about 75 other YMCA staff from all over Texas were riveted to our speaker, Jason Cole. Jason was warning us of some of the challenges that we might face as we come down from our “mountain top” weekend. He reminded us to stay alert, be prepared and stand firm in the Lord, no matter what happens.  We left camp energized and inspired in our faith. 

Just minutes later, as most of us were traveling back home, a gunman came into First Baptist Church in Sutherland Springs, and killed 26 people and injured 20. Lives changed forever in moments. As the names of those who died were given, story after story emerged of beautiful children and adults, whose lives were taken way too soon. And here we are once again, grieving for those who’ve lost family and friends in a senseless manner.

Though some may question where God was that day, God was very, very present. I even believe that God felt the pain and agony of each person in that church as the bullets scattered. I believe His grace was sufficient for each one of them in their moments of terror and suffering. And for those loved ones left behind this senseless tragedy? God is and will continue to be very present. Psalm 56:8 says “You keep track of all my sorrows. You have collected all my tears in your bottle. You have recorded each one in your book.”  

When David wrote these words in the Psalms, he had been captured by the Philistines and was a prisoner of war. He had a reason to be sorrowful and fearful or even give up on God. But instead, David expressed a deep trust in God. In the midst of a troubling time, David spoke out “This I know, God is for me…..In God, I trust; I shall not be afraid. What can man do to me?” (Psalm 56:9, 11)

How do we respond to Sutherland Springs? We live in a fallen world. Tragedies will continue to happen. Human beings are not always kind to one another. Yet, in our sadness, we can pray fervently for good to overcome evil. We can pray for those in Sutherland Springs who have lost loved ones. We can draw near to God and realize that He is our only true hope in a deeply troubled world.  We can cry out to God like David did, knowing that God collects our tears in a bottle. We can ask God to make us more compassionate people, looking for ways to inspire and encourage those who struggle. We can ask God to increase our faith and take a stand in our faith, even if we're judged for it. We can decide to make a difference in our community and serve others. How about you?  

“The only love that won’t disappoint you is one that can’t change, that can’t be lost, that is not based on the ups and downs of life or of how well you live. It is something that not even death can take away from you. God’s love is the only thing like that.” (Pg. 304, Tim Keller,  Walking with God through Pain and Suffering)

“He will wipe every tear from their eyes, and there will be no more death or sorrow or crying or pain. All these things are gone forever.” Revelation 21:4
Nancy Abbott is the Chaplain for the YMCA of Greater San Antonio.

Taking Things for Granted

This past weekend, my husband and I once again volunteered in a prison ministry. While we ladies were cooking up tasty homemade meals for the inmates, our men volunteers were with the inmates from morning to early evening.

So, it’s no surprise that prison food is pretty bad. Think of some of the most boring, tasteless school cafeteria meals you've ever had and go a few notches down. Obviously, the inmates were thrilled about the food they received during the weekend. After a taco lunch, one inmate said “I haven’t had a taco for 6 years!” On pizza night, another inmate shared “I haven’t had pizza for 8 years!”  Little things we all take for granted.

The more we’ve been blessed in our lives, the more temptation it is to take things for granted. What does that mean? We underestimate the value of a person or thing. We expect someone or something to be always available. It means to be so sure of having something that we no longer appreciate it.

What do you and I take for granted? Our homes? An income? Our spouses? Our friendships? Our children? Our parents? Our meals? Our clothes? Our cars? Our health? Our safety? I remember a recent trip to Houston after the hurricane really opened my mind to all the things I take for granted. Listening to person after person share stories of losing homes, cars, and basically everything, left its mark on me.

Perhaps, it’s time for us to wake up. For the inmates, they made choices that led to serving prison time. But, maybe they’ve become a bit more appreciative about a simple taco or slice of pizza, because it’s no longer available.

What do you take for granted? Whom do you take for granted in your work, home or friendships? How have you minimized the power, presence and activity of God in your life? Do you assume that life will always be the way it is now? Have you grown so accustomed to the blessings in life that you’ve succumbed to a critical spirit and complaining? This is such a temptation for us as we take things for granted.

Why not start your day with a thankful heart? Look up. Look around. Appreciate. Take in the blessings of your life. They won't always be there.

“I will give thanks to you, LORD, with all my heart; I will tell of all your wonderful deeds.” Psalm 9:1

“When it comes to life the critical thing is whether you take things for granted or take them with gratitude.” G.K Chesterton

Nancy Abbott is the Chaplain for the YMCA of Greater San Antonio.

Judging Others

I can’t imagine how he ended up in a kill pen. How could anyone judge a beautiful black horse like Will and determine his life had no value? Was it his appearance? His gate? His breeding? His skills? I honestly don’t know. I’m just glad he was saved from the kill pen.

At first, Will was very timid, hard to catch and aloof. He had obviously been abused in the past. But now, he’s enjoying a new life at a new farm. And I’m so grateful to get to lease him for a while and shower him with love and acceptance!

Just as Will has been hurt by people who wrongly judged him, so have we. Being judged by others can cut deeply like a knife. We can be judged by our appearance, past or current actions, income, homes, religion, gender identity, politics, and even the friends we keep. And because we humans are so talented at the sport of judging, we do it naturally!

So, how do we judge others? For some, it’s such a normal part of everyday life. Don’t like how someone’s actions at work? Judge. Don’t like how someone handled something 10 years ago? Judge. Don’t like someone’s postings on facebook? Judge. Don’t like peoples’ opinions? Judge. Don’t like peoples’ gender identity? Judge. Disagree with someone? Judge. And we have no earthly idea, the pain we inflict on others.

Of course, we know in life, there is a place for judging others. People must be held accountable. No community can exist where nobody is held accountable. Teachers wouldn’t grade students.  Citizens wouldn't sit on a jury. Employees wouldn’t be held accountable for their work.

Jesus spoke about a different type of judging. He commanded us, “Do not judge.” (Matthew 7:1)  It’s the attitude that we do it with that God is most concerned about…”For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged.” (Matthew 7:2) It’s so easy for us dismiss people. This is not the way Jesus handled people. When Jesus told us in the Bible the harsh truth about our sin, He didn’t condemn us, reject us or dismiss us. He brought us close. He invited us to know Him and follow Him. Through Jesus, even as sinners, we can became his friend.

Imagine your relationships if you determined to stop judging people. No more negativity. No more gossip. No more dismissing others. No more cutting others down. No more holding grudges. How would you change? Grace is a beautiful gift to give. We all need extra grace. Just ask Will.

“By judging others we blind ourselves to our own evil and to the grace which others are just as entitled to as we are.” Dietrich Bonhoeffer, The Cost of Discipleship

"If you search for good, you will find favor; but if you search for evil, it will find you!" Proverbs 11:27 NLT)

"Judging others is a quick and easy way to feel good about ourselves. But that's the problem. God doesn't compare us to them. They are not the standard. God is. And compared to him, Paul argues in Romans 3:12, 'There is no one who does anything good'." Max Lucado, In the Grip of Grace

Nancy Abbott is the Chaplain for the YMCA of Greater San Antonio.

Road Rage

This week, I experienced a small taste of what some call "road rage." I was driving down the 281S service road and all at once, saw someone edge into my middle lane. If I hadn't slowed down, he would have clipped my car. I honked mostly "defending" the integrity of my car, but partially out of anger. Well, that didn't go over well. The driver of that little Prius decided to play cat and mouse. He'd speed up and then literally stop on the service road, and speed up and stop again. Craziness.

The driver of that little Prius must have been having a very bad, no good day….and did his best to inflict pain on someone else. But, the question is, how did I respond?

It's not easy to turn my back when someone is glaringly wrong. My human nature cries out to want to make right the wrongs. Everything in my spirit felt justified to honk my horn even louder (haha) at this guy.  If only, I had my phone handy to snap a picture of his little Prius license place. If only….

Bad stuff that come out of the blue like this remind me just how much I need God. It's so easy to react rather than act. When I actually calmed down, I thought…

How being "right" is much more fun than being humble.

Being defensive is so much easier than offering kindness.

Getting even is more instinctive than getting humble.

Then, I was convicted. I needed an attitude check. I DID want to be right. I WAS defensive. I DID want to get even. It was such a natural instinct. I'll call it what it is…sin.

I asked God for help in this matter. He directed me to some verses on humility, kindness and patience. Imagine that! He reminded me that I'm called to love others as Jesus loves me, not as they love me.

God seems to provide meaningful life lessons in day-to-day life, doesn't He? There's even lessons after experiencing road rage.

"When pride comes, then comes disgrace, but with humility comes wisdom." Proverbs 11:2

"Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love." Ephesians 4:2

"Blessed are the peacemakers, for they will be called children of God." Matthew 5:9

Nancy Abbott is the Chaplain of the YMCA of Greater San Antonio.

Why Not?

I was numb as I sat in my room at a Silver Bay YMCA Conference Center in upstate New York. I read my phone in utter disbelief: At least 50 dead as Gunman Opens Fire on Las Vegas Music Festival.  

We have seen so much horror before our eyes lately. Hundreds of gunshots shot into a concert crowd in Las Vegas. People wading through waist deep waters in Houston. Florida’s Irma. Mexico’s earthquake. Puerto Rico devastated. And on and on....

Our hearts seem to be breaking more and more lately. But, honestly, what can you and I do? How can we make a difference in an increasingly dark world? We can give financially. We can serve in devastated areas. We can pray for those affected by these tragedies. What else?

If you’re stirred by these things as I am, WHY NOT step out in faith over the thing that God is stirring in you? WHY NOT decide to make a difference? WHY NOT take a risk and be determined not to play it safe anymore?

How do we make a difference? 1. Seek God. Tell Him you want to make a difference.
2. Listen. Yes, wait on God and listen to what He might be speaking to you. What comes to your mind? 3. Gather with other like minds to have a conversation. Share your hearts together. 4. Act! Seek to make a difference.

Don’t forget to pay attention to those hurting right around you! God’s word tells us to “rejoice with those who rejoice and weep with those who weep.” (Romans 12:15)  Oh, may we be sensitive people who love well those that we see every day. There may be people right next to you who have experienced deep trauma and pain. Let’s start by making a difference right where we are.

Dear Father in heaven, Our hearts our broken as we remember one week ago and how this tragedy has forever affected so many people. The loss of life and those wounded is beyond our comprehension. The sorrow and mourning of those grieving is incomprehensible. We pray for healing for the survivors and for their loved ones. We ask God to bring not only physical and emotional healing, but spiritual healing. 

Father, our own anger that we feel is a reflection of how things are not right in this world. Lord, we pray that this anger can ignite in us a greater love and deeper prayer for God’s healing and peace to come during times like this. We pray for our heart to be sensitive to our own sin. Let healing begun with me. Lord, we ask that you would empower us to be a blessing to others. Please show us how.

We pray for all leaders in our country. We pray for their wisdom to navigate the roads ahead. We pray for them all to make wise choices for the safety of our country and its people. We pray for the churches in Las Vegas to be ministers of the gospel during this time.  We ask, Lord, that you would make yourself known in our hearts today. Fix our broken world. In Jesus’ name. Amen.

“Oh, let the evil of the wicked come to an end.” Psalm 7:9

“The prayer of a righteous person has great power as it is working.” James 5:16

Nancy Abbott is the Chaplain for the YMCA of Greater San Antonio.

Good, Good Father

I don’t know much about Will. He’s a black gelding horse. I don’t know his breed or his age. I don’t know anything about his past except that he was rescued from a kill pen. He was skin and bones and now looks fat, sassy and beautiful. For the next three months, I am leasing him as we prepare for horse ownership.

Will has been a bit aloof and tough one to catch. The other day, it took over an hour to catch him, even while being lured by food! History has taught Will some lessons. Somewhere along the way, he learned that not everyone could be trusted. Obviously, he had a master along the way that didn’t love him the way he needed to be love.

Sometimes, humans can be a lot like Will when it comes to how we relate to God. Some of us prefer to keep our distance. Others may not believe or trust in God. Others grew up in church, but couldn’t wait to get free from the legalism and guilt. Many have viewed God through the lens of over-zealous, judgmental believers and can’t get away fast enough.

God is and will always be a good Father. He is the real deal and truly wants a relationship with every human being. He loves us so much, more than any human being can love. He wants us to want Him, all the time, not when we get in a pinch or hungry for something. He communicates clearly through His Word, how we come into relationship with Him. (John 3:16) We can act so much like Will….just running to and fro, looking for some other way, avoiding the very One who loves us and wants the very best for us.

I can’t imagine life without God. His love is the real deal. I’ve had times in my life where I wanted to run from Him, but learned quickly that it wasn’t a good idea. I’m so thankful I can trust Him, no matter what comes my way. To think He wants a relationship with all of us is beyond amazing! He is God. We are not.

Stop running. Ask God to show you more about who He is. If you ask, He will show you.

If you have a moment today, check out this song today by Chris Tomlin.(Good Good Father):

I’ve heard a thousand stories of what they think you’re like
But I’ve heard the tender whispers of love in the dead of night
And you tell me that you’re pleased
And that I’m never alone.
You’re a good good father
It’s who you are, it’s who you are, it’s who you are
And I’m loved by you.
It’s who I am, it’s who I am, its who I am
I’ve seen many searching for answers far and wide
But I know we’re all searching
For answers only you provide
Cause you know just what we need 
Before we say a word
You’re a good, good father…. (continued)

Nancy Abbott is the Chaplain for the YMCA of Greater San Antonio.

Harvey Changed Everything

Little did I know what was in store in Houston. I had watched the news about Harvey. I had seen the pictures. I had heard the stories of so many flooded homes. But, it was being there that really touched my heart.

These folks have all sorts of needs. Financial needs. Finding a new home. Patience with FEMA. Wisdom for what's next. Clothes to wear. A car to rent. Food for the next meal. We listened to gut-wrenching stories that broke us.

How Josh and I wished we could provide an answer to the heartaches we heard. Obviously, we couldn't. But, what we could do is love, serve and care for those that we met. We could listen. We could pray. And everyone wanted prayer.

So often in the workplace we try to appear strong and together. We hide what we really feel behind a great appearance. We strive to appear in control. Right?

Not in Houston. Sometimes, things happen that change everything. Harvey changed everything. Harvey reminded me that everyone has spiritual, physical and emotional needs that sooner or later that bubble to the surface. Harvey reminded me that everything changes when we can't control our environment. Harvey reminded me that we're always in need of God, not just when things get tough. Harvey reminded me that you can't always make sense of God's ways, but you can trust His heart.

Today, I encourage you to run to the God who longs to be in relationship with you. He catches every care you cast in His direction. He longs to offload every burden that tears your heart apart. God welcomes every worry you rotate over and over in your mind. God knows your needs better than anyone else on the face of this earth. Whether you're in crises or semi-crises mode or no-crises, God longs for you to run to Him. Stop trying to be self-sufficient and in control. Someday it just won't be enough.

In the midst of Houston's need, there is a terribly beautiful thing going on there. There is more love, tenderness, giving, mercy, and grace being demonstrated like nothing I've seen before. People are loving people here in Houston, irregardless of race, politics, sexuality or faith. In the midst of great need, there is an abundance of love. Harvey changed everything. How will it change you?

"Don't worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need." Philippians 4:6

Nancy Abbott is the Chaplain for the YMCA of Greater San Antonio. 

(Josh Heaston, Christian Mission Director with the Indianapolis YMCA and Nancy visited the YMCA of Greater Houston from September 10-14, 2017)

When I Am Afraid.....

As we wake up to another anniversary of September 11, it’s hard not to be distracted by all that’s going on in our country. I’m drawn to this powerful verse:

"When I am afraid, I put my trust in you. In God, whose word I praise-In God I trust and am not afraid. What can mere mortals do to me?” Psalm 56:3-4

When King David spoke these words, he was a prisoner of Philistines in Gath. A prisoner. Life wasn’t easy by any means. Yet, he knew that when fear gripped his heart, he HAD to place his full trust in God. And so do we.

Father in Heaven, Thank you that we can trust you today with all that’s going on in our world. This day and even the hurricanes have not taken you by surprise. You are present and available to all people. You hear our cries for help. You know so well our broken hearts. You are present in our fears and desire to calm our hearts in times of devastation and tragedy. 

For those who have lost loved ones throughout these past few weeks, we ask God, for your grace and mercy to comfort each and every family and friend member affected. There are no words, Lord. You tell us that you are close to the brokenhearted and save those who are crushed in spirit. (Psalm 34:18) We believe that today. 

For those who have lost property and personal items, Lord fill each heart with hope and peace. Remind us that stuff can be replaced; lives cannot. Your word tells us “You will keep him in perfect peace, whose mind is stayed on You, because he trusts in You.” (Isaiah 26:3) Be our perfect peace as we watch all that’s going on.

Father, may your perfect love calm our fears, deepen our trust and give us hope for the future. Allow us to be the hands and feet of Jesus by loving well, serving wholeheartedly, giving extravagantly and praying fervently. Thank you that we can come to you in these tumultuous times. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

I don’t know what this day holds. You don’t either. But, I do know my God. He can be our refuge and our fortress in times of need. Be assured that He is with you, (and your friends and family members) in whatever you facing. When you are afraid, will you place your trust in Him?

“God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble.” Psalm 46:1

Nancy Abbott is the Chaplain for the YMCA of Greater San Antonio.

Stuff

Do you remember the old movie, The Jerk? Steve Martin’s great line: “And I don’t need any of this stuff. I don’t need the ashtray……paddle game…. remote control…..matches…..lamp." It was funny in the movie, because the movie wasn’t real. But, the fact is, losing stuff isn’t fun. It stinks.

Stuff. There’s been a lot of stuff lost this past week. I’ve heard people say “I’ve lost everything…” way too many times this past week. Hurricane Harvey has affected a lot of people’s stuff. Stuff gone forever.

We all have stuff that means something to us. Pictures. Treasures. Antiques. Electronics. Cars. Clothes. Gifts. Special memories. Precious memories and items drowned in Harvey’s aftermath. I doubt any of us can understand unless it happens to us.

Harvey’s devastation has broken the hearts of people all over the world. There are no words. But, over and over, we’ve seen beautiful pictures of what really matters. It’s not fancy cars or treasured heirlooms or even precious family pictures. It’s human lives. People matter. People matter to people and people matter to God. Max Lucado writes, “As you’ve listened to evacuees and survivors, have you noticed their words? No one laments a lost plasma television or submerged SUV. No one runs through the streets yelling, ‘My cordless drill is missing’ or ‘My golf clubs have washed away.’ If they mourn, it is for people lost. If they rejoice, it is for people found.”

Harvey has affected a lot of people in Southeast Texas. How has Harvey affected you? For me, I want to look into the eyes of fellow human beings with more love and compassion. I want to care more about people and less about my stuff. I want to hold my stuff loosely knowing it could be gone tomorrow. I want to roll up my sleeves and serve those who are suffering.

So, here’s to holding our stuff loosely, loving freely and serving joyfully! May God use you to encourage, inspire and give hope to all those who are suffering this week.

“But my God shall supply all your needs according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus.” Philippians 4:19

Nancy Abbott is the Chaplain for the YMCA of Greater San Antonio.

Storm Stories

Watching the Texas weather news this past weekend was enough to put a bit of fear and trepidation in me. Between the predicted wind gusts, rain predictions, tornado potential and flooding concerns- Harvey became a force to be reckoned with. The pictures of what we see are devastating! I'm sorry for anyone named Harvey. You do not deserve this.

With each passing hour, we inch closer and closer to a new understanding of what a bad boy Harvey is. With all the hype and warnings, Harvey has come with wrath and vengeance.

Jesus is in the business of calming storms. He can handle them quite well. There is a cool story in the Bible where Jesus got into a boat and the disciples jumped in too. All at once a big bad "Harvey" type storm came up on the lake and the waves went ever-which-a-way over the boat. But, Jesus was snoring. Not really, but he was sound asleep! The disciples woke him up and screamed for them to save him cause they were going to drown. Jesus replied "Y'all of little faith! Why are you so chicken?" He then got up and yelled at the wind and waves. All at once, everything was calm. The disciples were like "Dude, how did you do this? What kind of dude are you, anyway? Even the winds and waves obey what you say!" Matthew 8:23-27 (NBA paraphrase)

We will all experience treacherous storms in life. Some are real live storms like Harvey. Some are other kinds of storms. Cancer. Marital strife and divorce. Loss and grief.  Financial strain. Loneliness. Heartache. No one is protected from the storms of life. However, there is great relief in knowing that no matter how great the storm is, Jesus is very present and real.

Did you notice the disciples in the story? They were trying to take control and figure things out on their own!  But, Jesus was fast asleep. The disciples must have felt that Jesus totally abandoned them! But, he didn't one bit! I have a feeling He was so in synch with God that He was at peace in the storm and could sleep soundly. And we wonder why we stress? How often do we play "God" just like the disciples?

Whatever trial you face today, please know that it does not go un-noticed by our Lord. He knows and sees all and is in full control. God will see us through our storm.

Updated August 28: As we view the devastation this day, our hearts are breaking. Honestly, what can we do? One thing we can do is pray. God is still in the business of calming storms. Please join me in praying:

Father in Heaven, We come to you today on behalf of all who are in and around Houston and surrounding cities devastated by Harvey. It is beyond our comprehension the devastation. Our hearts are breaking as we watch the news and glance at these pictures of rising water. We long to help but feel so helpless. Lord, show us how we can make a difference from afar. Each of us can do something. Please show us. Please teach us the power of prayer and being on our knees on behalf of our fellow Texans and rescue workers.

For those who are dealing with rising waters, we ask that you could comfort them right now and meet their every need. We pray that you would raise up an army of people, volunteers, and organizations around our country to rescue and provide for those that need help. We pray for you to provide places of refuge and refreshment for those that need a place to lay their head. God, give wisdom for our city officials, civil servants, governmental and community leaders throughout the state of Texas and the United States. Give them daily strength and meet their every need as they deal with the task ahead. We pray for a calming of the storm in every way. Please, we ask that you would stop the rains. We ask that you would prevent any more loss of life in the wake of this tragic event. We ask that your love would shine brilliantly as humans serve their fellow man. We ask that your peace would pervade all who have been traumatized by this event. We pray that our Houston friends would not fear, but know that when they pass through the deep waters, you will be with them. May they experience your constant presence and peace today. In Jesus' name. Amen.

"Do not be afraid- I will save you. I have called you by name- you are mine. When you pass through deep waters, I will be with you; your troubles will not overwhelm you. When you pass through fire, you will not be burned; the hard trials that come will not hurt you. For I am the Lord your God, the holy God of Israel, who saves you." Isaiah 43:1-3

"Cast all your anxiety on him because He cares for you." 1 Peter 5: 7

Nancy Abbott is the Chaplain for the YMCA of Greater San Antonio.

Pressure Cooker Times

I honestly don’t know how to talk about what I should be talking about this week. I’ve started this blog way too many times only to delete my words. The events of last week both in our country and Spain have been horrifying to see. Each day, I find myself a bit reticent to read the news of the previous night. What’s next?

Our country feels like a pressure cooker. A pressure cooker is an airtight cookware used for quick cooking or preserving of foods by means of high-temperature steam under pressure.  Once water boils, it will stay at the same temperature. As water evaporates and become steam, it also is the same temperature. The only way to make steam hotter is to put the system under pressure. That’s what a pressure cooker does. If the pressure cooker fails to release, the built up pressure could explode causing serious damage.

We are living in pressure cooker times. It’s hard not to be fearful of what could happen next. How shall we live our lives during these pressurized days?

I’m not going to protest, because that’s not me. I’m not going to make waves about what should and shouldn’t happen, because that’s not me either. But, what I can do is draw people to my God. My God gives perspective. My God loves all people perfectly. My God has wisdom on how each of us can make a difference:

How do we deal with those we don’t like? “But I say to you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you.” Mathew 5:44

How do we care for those that are hurting? “Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience.”Colossians 3:12

How do we practice peace with those in my world? “Let us therefore make ever effort to do what leads to peace and to mutual edification.”  Romans 14:19

How do we communicate with others about issues? “A man of knowledge uses word with restraint, and a man of understanding is even-tempered.” Proverbs 17:27

How do we respond to people who feel differently about things? “A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.” Proverbs 15:1

How do we treat people?  “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts always hopes, always perseveres.” 1 Corinthians 13:4-7

How do we look toward the future? “Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the Lord your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you.”Deuteronomy 31:6

Stop the pressure cooker. God’s word instructs us to live differently. Do you know what blows me away even more? God loves when we look to Him for help!

Practice: As you start this day, pick one or two verses that YOU would like to make a reality in your life today. Ask God for help in this journey to look more and more like Him.
Nancy Abbott is the Chaplain for the YMCA of Greater San Antonio.

Out of Control on the Animas

At first glance, the Animas River in Durango looked a bit intimidating. The water was super-high and running at a rate of 800 cubic feet per second, which is pretty fast. Looking like fun, we went ahead and made reservations for two inflatable kayaks, also called duckies. We're on vacation, why not?

This trip was like no other kayak trip I've taken. Waves that belonged in the ocean. White waters crashing against rocks. Rocks to dodge. Eddies to get out of. I was pleased to master most of it until Smelter. Smelter is a section of the trip known for dumping pesky little duckies like ours. Smelter gives new meaning to feeling out of control. It's the grand finale for all little duckies.

My husband killed it at Smelter. I did not. As I entered the Smelter area, I paddled left following our neophyte guide. I should have gone middle. When I tried to correct my error, I was parallel to a six-foot drop with a swirling eddy below. I paddled my heart out, but couldn't get to the middle. In an instance, I flew off the kayak and off I went on my own personal water ride. Taking a huge gush of water in, along I went, bumping rocks and swirling around like a washing machine. Finally, I grabbed a rock, only to be hurled back out into the mighty river. It wasn't long before I was able to swim to the side and grab ahold of a kind man's kayak. He was just waiting in a cove to help kayak-less people like me.

I have a healthy new respect for raging rivers. Once I dumped, I had no control. Flying through that water was something I'll never forget. It felt really scary to be out of control.

It occurred to me later that evening, how control is so much a part of my human nature. Fear and control go hand in hand. I can so easily fall prey to trying to control the things I fear or worry about. I have a feeling you do as well. We can attempt to try to control our spouses, our children and grandchildren, our schedule, our image, our friendships, our environments, etc.  How much stress do you bring on yourself trying to be in control?

Sometimes, our controlling nature fails us. When we try to control our life, worry and anxiety become close companions. Instead of seeking God's help, we rely on our own wisdom and own power to get through stuff. We become our own god, demanding control.

The day on the  Animas River reminded me of my need for God. He was in full control of the situation. I was not.

As you start this day: Spend a few quiet minutes with God. Ask him to examine your heart and reveal to you ways you've sought control in matters. Write down everything that God shows you.  Did you know that God loves you so much that he doesn't want you to worry about anything? 

"Trust in the Lord with all your heart, lean not on your own expectations. In all your ways acknowledge him and he will make your path straight. (Proverbs 3:5-6)

Nancy Abbott is the Chaplain for the YMCA of Greater San Antonio.

Manu's Decision

It’s hard to believe that Manu Ginobili is 40 today. I know. Many of you don’t really care. That’s OK. But, Manu will always be one of the most beloved Spurs and honestly, turning 40 is a big deal. Wait until you turn 40. You’ll see.

When out on the floor, he adds a dimension to the Spurs that is, basically, indescribable. Who remembers Manu swinging down a bat in the AT&T Center? Who can’t forget the greatest play of the 2017 playoffs when Manu came from behind James Harden and blocked his shot at the buzzer in Game 5 against the Rockets? Manu just being Manu.

I’ve been waiting all summer to find out whether Manu would come back to the Spurs. It was so exciting to hear he made his decision! He’ll be a great asset on the team. His leadership, spunk, and craziness on the floor will be sweet to watch. One. More. Year.

Manu’s decision to play didn’t come easy…..“It was much slower to make the decision than the other times because I had more doubts. I wanted to let the decision mature to see how I felt. I made my decision because it’s a great honor to be in such a franchise, at 40-years old, feeling important, with people who tell me that they love me and that I am still important to the team.”

How do you make tough decisions? What college should I attend? Whom should I marry? Should I move or not?  Invest or not invest? Get a tattoo or not? Aging parent decisions? Change careers or not? Date a person or not? How do you make the RIGHT decision?

I don’t think there’s a cookie cutter approach to decision making. We all are unique human beings with God given talents. It’s never really worked for me to follow the step by step “How to Know God’s Will for your Life’ approach. Instead, I invite God into my decision process. If I’m trying to make a decision, I ask God to help me. I go to God’s Word and camp out at verses like “If any of you is lacking in wisdom, ask God, who gives to all generously and ungrudgingly, and it will be given you.” (James 1:5) or “And this is my prayer: that your love may abound more and more in knowledge and depth of insight, so that you may be able to discern what is best.” (Philippians 1:9-10)

I do believe God wants input in our decisions, but I think he loves it when we develop the wisdom and discernment to make our own decision in light of His Word. When I feel confidant in the decision, I am ready to move forward. Receiving God’s peace is a sure fire sign that all is good. With God’s peace, I don’t have to second guess myself, because God’s in it. May God bless you and give you great wisdom in all your decisions today.

"Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him and he will make straight your paths." Proverbs 3:5-6

Nancy Abbott is the Chaplain for the YMCA of Greater San Antonio.

La La Land

I’m going to La La Land next week, the land of icons and images. But, I only see one……..an older, balding man. Here’s how it came down.

It was a beautiful fall day in Orange County. A day I will never forget. We agreed to meet in front of a small hotel on the corner of Harbor Boulevard and the 91 Freeway. I was nervous, my heart beating like crazy. I had no clue what to say or do when I met him.

I got out of my car and immediately saw an older gentleman. A short man, with less than a full head of hair, walked toward me with a gigantic grin, twinkling blue eyes glistening in the sun. It was a moment I’ll treasure forever. We enjoyed hanging out that day, catching up on a lifetime.

Charles, my birthfather, had come from Queensland, Australia, where he raised his family. We could only laugh as we discovered similar traits, quirks and tastes that we mutually shared. Although Charles passed away a few years ago, I was so thankful for 20 years of knowing him.  I’ll never forget his visits to the states or mine to Australia.

It was that day back in Orange County when I first knew what it felt like to look like someone else. But, you know what?  Whether I met Charles or not, I always looked like him. I couldn’t help but look like him because I was created with his DNA. And I guess it’s like that with God and us.

We have always been created in God’s image, whether we want to accept it or not. Just as I could try to not look like Charles, I could also choose not to reach out to him. Yet, Charles wanted a relationship with me and I with him. We can do the same with God. Will we choose to have a relationship with Him? In the end, knowing God brings all of us so much joy.

Remember that great smile Charles had when he saw me? God has that same smile waiting for us. It’s good to be with earthly family. It’s good to be with God and God’s family. I urge you this week to enjoy and celebrate both.

“So God created humankind in his image, in the image of God he created them; male and female he created them.” Genesis 1:26-27

“ May the Lord smile on you.” Numbers 6:25

Nancy Abbott is the Chaplain for the YMCA of Greater San Antonio.

Horse Happy

Ben, my husband, is not particularly fond of horses. Equines had not really been on his radar until I came into the picture. For example, on our honeymoon, we went horse backing in Colorado, something he wanted to do for me, of course. Things went a bit south on the trail ride when he was suddenly thrown from his horse who spooked. Not good.

I wouldn’t say my husband had negative feelings towards horses after that. He just never got on one again. I’m happy to say things can change! We are currently taking Family horse handling  and riding lessons in preparation for owning a horse. I can’t help but grin as I watched Ben recently take a try at picking the horse’s hoof. I love seeing his heart soften toward horses!

All of us have things happen in our life that tend to change the way we think about things.  How do bad experiences affect you moving forward? Whether it’s a strained relationship, a business deal gone south, a scare while flying, speaking in front of a group, or being bit by a dog- these things can produce some negative thinking going forward.  Have you ever vowed….I will never do that again?

When we let negative thinking creep into our minds, it can produce pessimistic thinking, either about our situation, our self-worth or our abilities. Without even realizing it, our minds can take on old memories and translate them into the current situations. Negative thinking patterns affect the way we think, live, work and play. Thankfully, our brain can be reshaped and reformed!

I encourage you to mind your mind. Notice what you put into your mind. What occupies your mind today? Remember the phrase, garbage in, garbage out? It’s the idea that incorrect or poor quality input will always produce faulty output. Whatever we think about, dwell upon and contemplate tends to be what our mindset is. We can’t control all our circumstances, but we can control how we think about them.

“Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things.” Philippians 4:8

Nancy Abbott is the Chaplain for the YMCA of Greater San Antonio.

What's Your Spiritual Temperature?

It’s that time of year where The Weather Channel App gets stuck in a rut. A big hot rut. Hot, hotter and hottest. There’s no point in checking the weather. Nothing changes. I know that one of these days, it will get cool again. Until then, I find myself frequenting rivers, lakes, pools and very soon, oceans. I also have a Colorado exit strategy firmly in place.

Even though our San Antonio temps don’t change much, our spiritual temperatures do. Each of us have a true spiritual state, whether we know it or not. If you were to describe your heart attitude toward God in one word, what would you say? Angry? Bitter? Distant? Luke-warm? Close? Special? Growing?

I know summer is a time to chill and take things easy. But, what if this summer was THE summer where you took your spiritual life to the next level? Check out some ways to do this:

Do a spiritual check-up. If you were to write one paragraph about God, what would you say? Maybe you would give your reasoning as to why God is like a distant second cousin. Maybe you would admit how you hate how Christian people don't act Christian. Maybe you would write about your one and only church experience being boring, irrelevant and a bunch of rules. Maybe you would share about the trauma, pain or suffering you’ve experienced in life. You can’t possibly imagine how God would allow such things. I’m so very sorry for your pain and I believe God is too. Yet, God is and will always be good, despite your circumstances or what goes on in world around us.

Open God’s Word for yourself. Many people are scared of the Bible. It’s also easy to pick and choose what we want to believe from the Bible. It’s like no other book on the face of this earth. Yet, we can avoid it like the plague. God’s Word is full of encouragement in this challenging world. God’s Word gives immeasurable hope and meaning to life. God’s Word shows us the reality of our own sinful nature. I dare you to stop avoiding God’s way of communicating to His children. Start with the book of John. Read the whole thing. It's amazing! Maybe try Philippians or Ephesians. Try Psalms, like Psalm 1, 23, 32, 103 and 139. This will get you started!

Seek out a spiritual mentor. It’s hard to keep a fire going when the embers are far apart. But, when you pull the coals close together, the flames return. Spending time with other people who challenge and encourage you in your faith is important. Have you ditched church? Avoided other Christians? Steered clear from small groups? Here’s my challenge: Seek out someone in the faith who is further along in his or her spiritual journey. Initiate a lunch or phone call. Ask them questions about their faith journey, including the challenges. Don’t let your own pride stop you. Also consider joining a small group. It's a great way to get to know others and find support and encouragement in the ups and downs of life.

Take a look in the mirror. What resentments have built up in your heart? Where has bitterness taken over? Whom have you refused to forgive? When does the critical spirit attack? We often don’t realize how our hearts grow cold by the choices we make in our relationships with others. Un-forgiveness is sure to keep the heart cold. Bitterness has the same results. Our relationship with God is reflected in our relationship with others. If we have truly experienced the grace of God, we cannot help but extend that same grace toward others.

Finally, as you take your spiritual temperature, ask those closest in your life to evaluate your spiritual life. Swallow your pride and ask: What are some things you see in my character that need to change? Often, we’re the last ones that notice.

“Were not our hearts burning within us while He was explaining the Scriptures to us?” Luke 24:32

“Never be lacking in zeal, but keep your spiritual fervor, serving the Lord.” Romans 12:11

Nancy Abbott is the Chaplain for the YMCA of Greater San Antonio.

Do I Love My Neighbor?

We were leading Sunday School and heading out with our class of four and five-year olds to the big classroom when I saw him. He was lying on the ground, on his back. Then the children saw him, gathered around him and yelled: "He's hurt! Let's help him!" They got it! My crazy husband had left the room first and decided the Good Samaritan parable would sink in further through an object lesson, and of course, he was just the one to be, well….. the object. Not that he was really beaten and left for dead, having all his money stolen. Not that he was undesirable to be seen with, especially if you were "important" or a different class. Not that he smelled bad, which probably was the case if one was left on a desert trail. Still, they got it. They wanted to help someone who needed it just be cause, well, he needed it. So, that was my Sunday.

Then, my Thursday came. And guess who gave the next object lesson? Her name was Maria. She was an older lady, outside in the hot sun and had way too many shopping bags to carry. She asked me for a ride. I was busy vacuuming my car. I was skeptical. I had a schedule. So, initially, I said no. Yep, the chaplain said no. But, my heart was troubled and felt God pushing me to catch up with her.

I called out to Maria and offered her a ride. I caved, apologized to her (and to God). This is where the lesson gets good. Well, I should say messy. After an almost shoving match to get all her bags into the car, I drove her to her apartment complex. This next lesson wasn't much fun to learn.

Not knowing her apartment complex, I stopped just inside the driveway to let her off, but unfortunately, I blocked the gate. The gate came flying open and missed my car by a thin hair. This was going on all the while dear Maria was trying to get her bags out of the car. Great, my car gets hit while doing a good deed. Let's just say the less-than-friendly-neighbor driving out of the complex did not hesitate to eloquently explain to me (a.k.a. screaming) the error(s) of my ways.

It's no fun to get yelled at by a screaming lady or the apartment yardman, who joined in the fun by accusing me of a huge dent in the gate. I don't do well with eloquent discussions directed at me. Even when it was all over and I was safely home, it affected my spirit. I was hurt. I began to wonder again about the Sunday School lesson. I remembered the parable ended with Jesus asking the lawyer "Which of these three do you think was a neighbor to the man who fell into the hands of robbers?" I think it was very clear by the parable they are not only the semi-easy ones like my Maria encounter, but also the harder ones like Maria's eloquent speaking neighbors.

I get it, but the truth is, it's not so easy. I do want to love people. And it's not very impressive to only love easy people. I guess we could all benefit going back to Sunday School to learn important truths and see how they play out in real life. I sure needed to.

What about you? Are you challenged to love your neighbor? (Work associates? Family members? Facebook friends? Neighbors? Real life everyday people?) We know the lawyer was. Now you know I am. But, it's worth it to love, even if it's not easy to do so.

"Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength and with all your mind, and, love your neighbor as yourself." Luke 10:27

Nancy Abbott is the Chaplain of the YMCA of Greater San Antonio.

Horror on the Baseball Field

Just last week, America experienced a horrifying event on a baseball field in Virginia. Politicians were practicing to compete in a bipartisan game. A gunman asked the question if they were democrat or republic. He then began shooting. The shooting went on for approximately ten minutes, with some saying the gunman fired at least 100 rounds.

How do we respond to yet another shooting? How do we make sense of senseless acts? Personally, I actually don’t know how to respond. And I certainly can’t make any sense of it. But, I do look to our God for finding hope and peace. I do know I can pray. Will you join me?

Dear Father in Heaven, We come to you today and thank you that you are God and will always rule this earth with truth and grace. You know the pain and suffering in America this week. Actually, you are well aware of the pain and suffering all over our world, particularly in England, in the last month. 

We thank you for your divine providence on the baseball field last week and so grateful for the U.S. Capitol police who responded. Lord, what a picture of your grace! We know that so many more would have been wounded or killed, if not for them being there. We pray for healing of all those injured in the attack. Heal our hurting nation.

We come to you, Father. Where else can we go to make sense of such utterly senseless acts that occur? Who else can we trust but You? We can trust in political leaders, but they can fail us. We can trust in social media and news, but they fail us too. We can trust in ourselves, but we can deceive ourselves. So, Lord, help us trust You, not just now, but each day. 

Thank you, God, that you were there that day on the baseball field. Amidst the horror, you were very present and working against the evil. Lord, would this be a reminder to us today that you are worthy of our trust? You are the only One who can sustain the weight of our hurt, grief and aches of life. Lord, would you use the horror on the baseball field to ignite our hearts to pray for our country, for our leaders and for each other. May we be agents of peace and unity. Show us when we are quick to judge one another. Teach us to love and speak well of others. Inspire us to make a difference in this world. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

"When I am afraid, I put my trust in You." Psalm 56:3

"Don't let your hearts be troubled. Trust in God, and trust also in me." John 14:1

Nancy Abbott is the Chaplain for the YMCA of Greater San Antonio.

Lessons From Summer Camp

When I was younger, I worked as a summer staff counselor at a camp in the Santa Cruz Mountains. I adored the Redwoods, and cycling around Carmel and Monterey. Taking the camp staff to Giant’s games wasn’t a bad gig either! However, there was one thing that made it tough. I was far away from my friends in Dallas and family in Ohio.

Back then, there were no cell phones. Indeed, this was truly the dark ages. In fact, if you wanted to make a call, you had to go down to the main phone in the camp lobby and make it there. If lucky, you could make a collect call to your family. (Note: For those not following me, a collect call is also known as a reverse charge call in which the calling party wants to place a call at the called party’s expense.) 

During this season, I was faced with a question that has stuck with me for life. Who will I turn to during times of loneliness? Letters and periodic calls didn’t quite fill the gap of being so far from home. Cell phones, facetime and facebook weren’t on the scene yet. Even surrounded by a ton of campers, I struggled with loneliness.

Today, we are constantly triggered by beeps, pings and little messages on our smart phone. Regardless of where we are or what we’re doing, we can hear those noises and quickly be alerted to someone trying to connect with us. When we’re so wired for continual distraction, it’s hard to really think about God or need Him for that matter. We can easily find someone to call upon.

It was during my camp experience, I enjoyed quiet reflection as I biked around the Santa Cruz Mountains. I loved running my dog on the Roaring Camp Loop Trail, captivated by the magnificent Redwoods all around me. I became more comfortable with times of solitude and silence, finding solace in God through worship and reading my Bible.

I look back on that summer with gratitude. I learned to call upon God in my loneliness. How will you choose to spend your summer?  Will you take time for God? He’s waiting for you.

“And he walks with me and he talks with me and he tells me I am his own…” C. Austin Miles (In the Garden)

“Call to me and I will answer you and tell you great and unsearchable things you do not know.” Jeremiah 33:3

Nancy Abbott is the Chaplain for the YMCA of Greater San Antonio.

Monday Morning Casting

Most weekends in the summer, Ben and I will mount our kayaks and head to the Guadelupe River. Early in the season, there are always some fun rapids on kayaks, due to the spring rains. Along the way, we’ll make a few stops in select areas where the fishing is primo. We're always on the lookout for Mr. Big, who lurks through the mighty waters, avoiding the lure. Some day, we'll get him.

Ben reminds me of Mr.-River-Runs-Through-It. He knows all about fly fishing and loves to teach those that join us on our weekend adventures. Fly fishing is an angling method in which the artificial “fly” is used to catch the fish. Casting a nearly weightless fly requires casting techniques that are different from other kinds of fishing. I’m still learning the rhythm of casting, but catching on fairly well. Honestly, I’m probably like most human beings…. I like fishing, but I love fishing when I actually catch fish!

But, here it is Monday morning and I want to share with you about a different type of casting. In 1 Peter 5:7, the verse says “Cast all your anxiety on Him because he cares for you.” 

As you and I face a new week and the summer season, we bring with us cares, anxieties and worries too big for us. We're not equipped to carry these big concerns. They're out of our control. A cancer diagnosis. A new job. A loss of job. A family challenge. A busy summer. Worry about our country and world. Wisdom for pressing decisions and choices. Dealing with challenging relationships. Casting our anxiety on God is necessary for enjoying God’s perfect peace.

Honestly, who else would you and I give our anxieties, worries and cares to? Who could gently hold and handle all these things that can consume us? We can share our worries with friends or family, but sooner or later, they have no answers. Our faithful God not only cares for us, but loves us with a perfect love. God can and will quiet our heart and give us peace. Perfect peace.

As we turn the page to summer, will you cast your anxieties upon your Heavenly Father? He will most certainly catch every worry or care you cast in His direction. Count on it. They're not too big for Him.

“Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank Him for all He has done.” Philippians 4:6

Nancy Abbott is the Chaplain for the YMCA of Greater San Antonio.

The Ultimate Sacrifice

This past Friday, firefighters from more than 100 departments participated in a processional in San Antonio that began at the Alamodome and ended at Community Bible Church. Fire trucks drove down Highway 281 as thousands gathered on the overpasses to wave flags, salute and quietly celebrate the life of Scott Deem. Scott was a firefighter who was killed battling a four-alarm blaze in San Antonio last week. Scott Deem sacrificed his own life trying to save others.

This Memorial Day, we remember those who gave the ultimate sacrifice. So, often, we can 'celebrate' the day without more than a casual thought to the meaning of the day. It's hard to fathom 1.8 million that gave their life for America since 1775. One way we can thank them for their sacrifice is by remembering.

So many brave men and women have willingly laid down his or her life for a greater cause. How can we not stop and remember?

It's hard to fathom this type of sacrifice. This type of sacrifice seems so final. If only Scott could have seen the amazing tribute and lived to see his third child born. If only those fallen soldiers knew that they were the real heroes. They will never know the ultimate sacrifice they gave. How does one give up everything for those they don't even know?

Perhaps, remembering our heroes today can inspire us embrace a life of sacrifice. The example that comes to mind immediately is Jesus Christ's sacrifice. God sent his Son to the earth in the form of a human and allowed his son to be the sacrificed on the cross for our sins. I can't imagine Jesus' walk to the cross and the pain He suffered to pay the sacrifice for our sins.

How then shall you and I live? We call our soldiers and public servants brave men and women. Will we willingly step out of our comfort zone to serve our fellow man? Will we serve one another in love, free from hatred, judgement and ill-will? Will we graciously put others first above ourselves? Our natural instinct is to serve ourselves. Whom will you serve?

"You, my brothers, were called to be free. But do not use your freedom to indulge the sinful nature; rather, serve one another in love." Galations 5:13

"Greater love has no one than this, that one lay down his life for his friends." John 15:13

Nancy Abbott is the Chaplain for the YMCA of Greater San Antonio.

Lessons from a Concentration Camp

I’ll never forget Auschwitz-Birkenau in Poland. A group of us were in Poland on a ministry trip and wanted to make sure we toured this concentration camp. Even the weather that day had a cold and cruel feel to it. As we walked below the infamous sign “Arbeit macht frei”, my emotions must have frozen in time. I couldn’t fathom the atrocities I saw and heard about that day. I wanted to cry a thousand tears, but I couldn’t. As we finished the tour, we left in silence. I’m not sure how long it was before I uttered a word.

Over the years, I’ve heard amazing stories of how people risked their lives by hiding Jews from the Nazis. One such family was the Ten Boom family who were owners of a family watch and repair business. Casper, the elderly father, lived with his unmarried daughters Corrie and Betsie. The family had strong Christian beliefs and felt obligated to help their Jewish friends in every way possible. Eventually, the watch shop was raided and the entire family arrested along their employees.

Both Corrie and Betsie were shipped by train to Germany and imprisoned at Ravensbruck, another concentration camp. It was there that the sisters used a hidden Bible to teach their fellow prisoners about Jesus. These two women chose to give hope to others even as they were surrounded by hatred and misery. (For a great read, check out: The Hiding Place, by Corrie Ten Boom)

Corrie Ten Boom endured such evil, even seeing her family die in an awful concentration camp. Years later, after her release, she tells the story of coming in contact with one of the most brutal prison guards and extending forgiveness to him.

Though we will never walk Ten Boom’s journey, we will go through our own trials and hardships that will shake us to the core. I’m challenged by how she lived her faith and asked myself these very questions:

1. Do I live, breath and practice forgiveness to those who have wronged me? Do I seek restoration of broken relationships? Do I inwardly judge people who whom are different than me or choose to freely love?

2. Do I believe God can walk with me through ANYTHING? Do I play it safe, seeking to control, or freely take risks, giving God control?

3. Do I freely share my spiritual journey with others? (There were times when Corrie struggled to pray and couldn’t pray. It was during those times she relied on her sister, who even prayed for the German soldiers!)  Don’t go it alone! Ask for prayer!

4. How do I let worry paralyze me?

Take time to prayerfully consider these questions for yourself. May God use Corrie Ten Boom's life to challenge you to live boldly, with God at your side!

“You are my refuge and my shield; I have put my hope in your word.” Psalm 119:114

“Never be afraid to trust an unknown future to a known God.” Corrie Ten Boom

“Worry does not empty tomorrow of its sorrow; it empties today of its strength.” Corrie Ten Boom

“There are no ‘if’s’ in God’s world. And no places that are safer than other places. The center of His will is our only safety- let us pray that we may always know it.” Corrie Ten Boom

Nancy Abbott is the Chaplain for the YMCA of Greater San Antonio.

Power of Team

Very few gave the San Antonio Spurs much of a chance in Game 6 with the Houston Rockets. Not only was Tony Parker out, but now Kawhi Leonard! How could the Spurs possibly win without their two important players?

Of course, the Spurs did win that game, 114-75 and now one game into the Western Conference Finals with Golden State. Most experts counted the Spurs out. The Spurs, however, didn’t chose to play the “why us?” card. Instead, they chose to play. As Pau Gasol said “We’ve been blessed. But it’s the game. Whoever goes down, guys are ready to step up." (SA Express News, May 12)

How can we learn from the Spurs about the power of team?  Take an honest inventory of your own skills as a teammate:

Team Work- Outstanding individual play means little unless the team performs well as a whole. Your skills are important, but attitude is even more important! Do you work selflessly for your team? Do you speak well of other team members? Do you serve with humility? Do you promote unity or stir disunity? How would other teammates view you? Do you pray for fellow team members?

Take Initiative- Do you look for ways to step up and fill a gap? Do you have a sense of responsibility for the whole team and its success? Do you address the elephants in the room? How much initiative will you demonstrate on your team?

Reliability- Can others rely and depend on you? Do you do what you say? Do you keep your commitments and give your best in each situation? Can others trust you in all matters?

Enthusiasm- I can only imagine the Spurs could have been discouraged when Leonard went down as well. It’s so easy to lose sight of our goal when things don’t go our way. Yet, encouragement is contagious! When we encourage others, despite the difficulties, we can rise above some of the most dismal circumstances. When you encourage, you get your mind off your self and build confidence into others!

Self Control- How do you handle the difficulties facing your team? How do you monitor what you say and what you don’t say? Your tongue has an affect on your team whether you know it or not. Do you honor others with your words and actions?

Pick one of the skills above that you need to grow in. Focus on ways to grow in this area. Invite God to help you become a better teammate. Please join me in prayer.....

Dear Father in Heaven, Thank you for the benefit of TEAM. Help me to grow in the area of ______. Teach me how to serve selflessly and love deeply those I serve with. Help me to take action that will not only grow myself, but my entire team. Give me wisdom beyond my years to make right choices. Grow my character each day to display the very attitude and actions of Christ. Lord, how I need your help to be the best teammate I can be! In Jesus’ name, Amen.

Nancy Abbott is the Chaplain for the YMCA of Greater San Antonio.

God In A Box

I just don’t get God.  I actually sometimes forget that He is God and I am not. I can so easily attempt to take over His role, wanting to pack my life into a neatly wrapped box. Got my schedule for the week? Check. Errands done? Check. Workouts in? Check. Things can go south when things don’t go as planned, can’t they? There is no room for injuries, interruptions, chaos, relational strife, delayed flights, etc.

Life has a way of doing that, doesn’t it? As much as we want life to be under our control and fit nicely into a neat box, it doesn’t. I bet Tony Parker, of the San Antonio Spurs, felt that way this week. With another playoff run in motion, Parker certainly wouldn’t have thought that one step toward a basket would cause such a grave injury.

This past week, I was listening to a song by Natalie Grant “King of the World.” Check out these words….
I tried to fit you in the walls inside my mind
I try to keep you safely in between the lines
I try to put you in the box that I’ve designed
I try to pull you down so we are eye to eye
When did I forget that you’ve always been the king of the world?
I try to take life back right out of the hands of the king of the world
How could I make you so small
When you’re the one who holds it all
When did I forget that you’ve always been the king of the world….

How do you try to fit God into the walls inside your mind? How do you keep Him safely in between the lines? How do you put him in the box you’ve designed? How do you pull Him down so that you are eye to eye? Maybe, just maybe, it’s safer to treat God like this. Friend, you miss out on the enormity of the King of the World!

There is no direction you can go that can escape His presence or His love. You can try to put limits on God, based on what you believe or don’t believe, but God will burst through your limits. You can even suggest that you’re a pretty good person, making a pretty good difference in this world. In God’s eyes, He’s more interested in your heart. Yes, your heart.

When did you forget that He’s always been the king of the world?

“So that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith; and that you, being rooted and grounded in love, may be able to comprehend with all the saints, what is the breadth and length and height and depth, and to know the love of Christ which surpasses knowledge, that you may be filled up to all the fullness of God.” Ephesians 3:17-19

Nancy Abbott is the Chaplain for the YMCA of Greater San Antonio.

It's Not About Me

With beautiful spring weather, the NBA playoffs and Fiesta, this time of year can be a blast here in San Antonio! My eyes have been glued on the NBA playoffs and just happy to see our San Antonio Spurs peel away from the Memphis Grizzlies this past week. Ready for Houston!

Maybe you heard a recent reporter alerting Kawhi Leonard that the TNT's studio crew of Shaquille O'Neal, Kenny Smith, and Charles Barkley dubbed him the world's second best player. (behind LeBron James) Leonard answered: "I didn't hear (them say that), but it doesn't matter, I'm trying to be the best team in the world right now. It's not about me, it's about the Spurs. And that's all I wanna do."

Kawhi Leonard has greater wisdom than most at his age! He gets it. It's not about him. It's about his team, the San Antonio Spurs. Leonard's humility is so refreshing. Wouldn't we all benefit from more of his mindset?

We've demanded our way and longed to be first since infancy. Isn't selfishness just a normal part of life?  The self-ward focus finds its way into sibling rivalry, high schools, college campuses, sports, entertainment, businesses, families and even retirement.  Why can't I have what I want? Why did I get overlooked? Why didn't I get promoted? Why don't they ask my opinion? Why shouldn't I try to make a name for myself? Why can't I do what I want to do?

We've been told in life to "look out for number one." Maybe we've forgotten who the real number one is? God and God alone. When we move from me-focused to God-focused, our mindset changes.  For me, if I miss having time with God or reading the Bible, I can quickly move into my "me-mindset." I do life in my way and in my strength. But, when I spend time with God, meditate on His word, things change. I remember the great words found in John 3:30 " He must increase, but I must decrease." Things don't change overnight, but I'm finding that God gets bigger in my life as I get smaller.

I'm not the center of the universe. My way is not the only way. God doesn't exist just to make me happy. The world doesn't revolve around me. I'm not always right.  It's not about me. It's not about you. It's about God.

"God does not exist to make much of us. We exist to make much of him." John Piper.

"Most gladly, therefore, I will rather boast about my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may dwell in me. Therefore, I am well content with my weaknesses, with insults, with distresses, with persecutions, with difficulties, for Christ's sake; for when I am weak, then I am strong."  2 Corinthians 12: 9-10

Nancy Abbott is the Chaplain for the YMCA of Greater San Antonio.

Listen and Love Well

We live in a distracted world. It’s difficult to truly hear people. When was the last time you talked to someone, but really wasn’t listening to that person’s response?  When has your phone or computer taken more priority than the people in front of you?

Psychology professor David Brenner says that a major obstacle to growth in our listening abilities is that most of us already think that we’re good listeners. (Sacred Companions: The Gift of Spiritual Friendship and Direction) If we think we're pretty good at listening, why would we try to get better?

Let’s take a moment for a bit of honest self-reflection, taken from the book The Listening Life, by Adam S. McHugh: “For what purpose do I enter a conversation? Is it an opportunity to express my opinions, a chance to be heard? Am I seeking attention or adulation? Do I try to entertain or perform for the other person, to convince them that I am likable or attractive? Am I trying to show others that I’m right and covert them to my way of thinking? Related to these questions, how do I view the other person in the conversation? Is he a sounding board for my thoughts? Am I the presumed expert and the other person the novice who needs to learn? A captive audience for my stories? A sparring partner, someone that I am trying to defeat?” Usually, we all at some point fall into the category of a poor listener.

McHugh also writes “The opposite of a listening heart is not a talking heart but a selfish heart.”  When we listen, we take our focus off ourselves and place it on the other person.  We seek to give, to learn, to care, to be other-focused. We demonstrate that each person matters, no matter whether they're "important" or "not so important" to us.

A model for us? Jesus Christ. Throughout the Gospels, we see time and time again Jesus interacting with people. He placed His focus on others. He asked great questions. He listened intently. He loved deeply. He gave the gift of listening because he loved people.

What would change in your work life if you made listening a priority? How would being other-focused change your relationships? When appropriate, how would setting aside your computer/phone change the dynamics in a conversation or meeting? Listening and loving go hand in hand. Love and listen well, my friend. People matter.

“Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of others.” Philippians 2:3-4

"Know this, my beloved brothers; let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger." James 1:19

Nancy Abbott is the Chaplain for the YMCA of Greater San Antonio.