Joy in the 2020 Journey

With 2020 just around the corner, how can we be ensured that our 2020 will be full of joy? What would it look like to live 2020 with joy?

The day after Christmas, Ben and I had to put our precious dog, Zoe, down. I’ve never had a dog like Zoe, so the loss has broken my heart. Zoe was five years old and the liver cancer just took over her little body. The days leading up to Christmas were wrought with pain, agony and concern for her. There was not much that felt “merry” about our Christmas.

Since that dreadful day, our home seems to scream of her loss in every nook and cranny. With every sound I hear, I expect her to appear in our presence. With every squirrel we see in the backyard, we expect her to make a fast dash outdoors.

I had to come to grips with the fact that I’m far from happy. But, then God reminded me of something! Something I already knew, but needed a refresher course to help me through this season of grief.

We tend to get happiness and joy mixed up. Happiness comes from an Old Norse root, happ, for happiness. It is defined as “chance, good fortune, or good luck.” We’re happy if we get a promotion. We’re happy if we win a new car. We’re happy if we go on a vacation. With happiness, we rely on circumstances and our good fortune, which cannot and will not always be there for us. Happiness is sure great, but we can’t always rely on having it.

But, joy is different. Gaio is the Greek word for joy, and this root word always points back to “great pleasure, rejoicing, happiness.” Many of us tend to confuse joy with happiness. We want so much to be happy that we will seek to control our lives at all lengths to achieve happiness. We eventually fall short of achieving it.

I’m not very happy today, but I have joy. Throughout the Bible, I read about folks who continue to have joy and praise God amidst the bleakest of circumstances. Paul was in prison when we wrote Philippians and said “Rejoice in the Lord and again I say rejoice."(Philippians 4:4) Paul and others in the Bible help me see that we can choose joy, no matter what is happening externally. True joy is not about chance or luck or getting what I want. God is the giver of joy and it involves living our lives for Him, knowing He is in control of all things….even when it doesn’t feel like it. As we surrender our lives to the Father, we trust Him, even amidst the pain, confusion and doubts.

I may shed a tear at the drop of a hat. I may even be sad for the next while. My heart is broken. But, at the same time, God can give me joy, even when I’m not happy. I’m expecting to live a life full of joy in 2020. Are you?

“There is a joy available that the deepest grief cannot put out. No circumstance or person can take away the joy God gives.” Timothy Keller

“Regardless of where you are today, God is with you. God is wooing you. God wants you to experience Him. Whatever you are going through today, you can find His joy and peace. However distant your dream may seem, God is working things out, and today is an important part of the process.” Lisa TerKeurst

Nancy Abbott is the Chaplain of the YMCA of Greater San Antonio.

Giving of Gifts

The tradition of giving gifts at Christmas has roots that go back as far as the Nativity story, where the three Wise Men gave gold, frankincense and myrrh to the baby Jesus.  All over the world, families and friends give gifts to one another. It’s a special time of the year when we acknowledge those we love with a gift.

Ever since I was a young child, I loved Christmas morning. I couldn’t wait to get up, get out to the tree and tear into the gifts under the tree marked “Nancy.” When it was all over, there was kind of a mini-let down. Even as a child, I remember that feeling of….. is that all?

Well, that isn’t all. All these years later, I now know that isn’t all there is! There’s so much more to the story of gift giving! In Matthew 2:10-11 we read:

“When they saw the star, they were filled with joy! They entered the house and saw the child with his mother, Mary and they bowed down and worshiped him. Then they opened their treasure chests and gave him gifts of gold, frankincense and myrrh.”

Giving gifts to one another is a way of celebrating the greatest gift exchange of all of creation- that God came to earth as a baby, lived a perfect life, suffered death and exchanged our condemnation for his mercy, grace and forgiveness.

Since it’s Jesus’ birthday, what would be the greatest gift you could give Him? Welcome Him today. Allow His centering peace to guide you through the ups and downs of the holidays. Welcome Him into the things you have zero control over. Receive his unconditional love. Welcome His grace amidst your constant attempts toward doing good. Welcome Him into your brokenness and weaknesses. Welcome Him into your fears and joys. Welcome into your deepest longings and lingering pain. Guess what? God wants ALL of you. He loves you more than you can imagine. Don’t leave Him out this Christmas.  He is THE gift. Merry Christmas!

“For unto us a child is born, to us a son is given….” Isaiah 9:6-7

“The giving of gifts is not something man invented. God started the giving spree when He gave a gift beyond words, the unspeakable gift of His Son.” Robert Flatt

Nancy Abbott is the Chaplain of the YMCA of Greater San Antonio.

When Plans Don't Go Your Way

Just think…..what if an angel showed up tonight at your home and surprised you with life altering news that would rock your ever loving world? Well, that’s what happened with Mary!

The angel Gabriel announced to Mary these words “Greetings, you who are highly favored! The Lord is with you…. Do not be afraid, Mary, you have found favor with God. You will be with child and give birth to a son, and you are to give him the name Jesus. He will be great and will be called the Son of the Most High. The Lord God will give him the throne of his father David and he will reign over the hose of Jacob forever; his kingdom will never end.”  (Luke 1: 26-33)

Imagine yourself in the place of Mary. What would be the expression on your face as you catch first sight of Gabriel? What would you be thinking as Gabe described what would happen? How would you adjust your life to this news? How would you emotionally deal with such significant change in your life?

God handpicked Mary to be a part of the greatest story every told. She had probably dreamed about the Messiah’s arrival, never thinking that she would be a part of this God-sized story! She didn’t quite get it and asked the angel for some clarification. This was not what she had planned, yet her response was one of surrender “I am the Lord’s servant. May it be to me as you have said.” (Luke 1:38) That is an example of beautiful submission to God.

How do you feel when your plans are drastically changed?

What your plans are altered, how does fear set in?

When life doesn’t go the way you want, do you accept your circumstances or blame God?

It seems like Mary can help each of us see God at work more clearly in our own lives. Even while Mary and Joseph had certain plans for the future, she submitted to God for His plan. Beth Moore writes “We get so fixated on the one thing we desperately want God to do that we miss 100 things He is presently doing. Our awakenness to the other things will either buoy us up in our faith for the one thing or remind us of His goodness, if for whatever sovereign reason, it is withheld.”

Dear friend, please don’t miss what God wants to personally do in your life. Allow Him into your life and be aware, engaged and vigilant to say “yes” to Him. Don’t give up on God if He hasn’t done the one thing you want Him to do. Mary didn’t limit God. She surrendered to God and his ways and her life was forever changed.

Nancy Abbott is the Chaplain of the YMCA of Greater San Antonio.

Black Friday Frenzy

Note to self: If in need of a Starbucks Coffee, it’s best to avoid going on Black Friday morning. We headed for the drive thru line only to see about 14 cars ahead of us. We quickly made our way inside, not even realizing that a large number of Black Friday shoppers had ordered on line, appearing to receive their drinks instantaneously. We settled in at Starbucks for what seemed like a long winter nap until finally our name was called. Coffee at last!

The holiday frenzy has officially begun! Once December hits, our calendars can become so full of busy shopping, parties and entertaining that we rarely have time to pause. As the December marches on, we can easily get sucked up into the craziness and struggle to remember why we’re doing all of this in the first place.

During Christmas, we celebrate and remember that God kept His promise by sending Jesus to earth to rescue us. God has not left us hopeless. He sent Jesus! Isaiah prophesied about Jesus in Isaiah 9:6b  “He will be named Wonderful Counselor, Mighty God, Eternal Father, Prince of Peace.”  Jesus is the reason we celebrate!

Why do we so easily forget what Christmas is all about?

Jesus can give you perfect peace and lasting hope as you place your trust in Him.

Jesus can give you guidance and clarity as you navigate this busy season.

Jesus can give you hope, when life feels very broken.

Jesus can give perfect peace and lift your anxiety and worry.

Jesus can be your wonderful counselor, when you don’t know what to do.

Jesus can be your strength, when you are weak.

When I look at who Jesus is, I wonder how I get so sidetracked at Christmas!! Christmas is about celebrating our Savior's birth! It seems like I (and all of us) can get so sucked into the frenzy.

Maybe, we need to take some time to consider how our Christmas season could be delightfully different. Have you thought about what you and your family miss when you set Christ aside? How would taking time to pause, help you keep Christ the focus this Christmas?

Today is December 1. Picture yourself on your own personal Christmas journey from now until December 25. Your goal is to daily take in the beauty, peace and hope that Jesus came to bring at Christmas. Every day matters! Take time for pause. Read the Christmas story. Celebrate with friends. Enjoy giving to others. Take time to pray. Attend church. Play Christmas music and sing along. Let this month be about keeping Jesus up front and personal this Christmas. 

“For God so loved the world in this way: He gave his one and only Son, so that everyone who believes in him will not perish but have eternal life.” John 3:16

Nancy Abbott is the Chaplain of the YMCA of Greater San Antonio.

Not So Perfect Holiday

Holidays can be wonderful times for family gatherings, scrumptious food and time away from work. But they can also be not so perfect times as well.

I think we have this cultural mindset that we’re “supposed” to be happy, thankful, and celebratory at this time of year. But that’s not true for everyone. What makes the holidays not so perfect? Recent loss of a beloved family member or friend, relationship break up, financial constraints, pain that won’t go away, depression, family strife, stress at work and sometimes just struggling to feel positive about life, to name a few. 

Just today, I was ticked off about something that got added to the Thanksgiving Day festivities, completely different than what I planned. How could something so minor become major to me? Why couldn’t I just let it go, agree to the change and just get my attitude adjusted?

When holidays are not so perfect, it’s important to just admit the obvious. Holidays are NEVER perfect. Who said they were? So, relax and let that synch in. Allow the day to flow in all its imperfections. Relax when the pie burns. Don’t worry when the turkey is dry. Keep the peace when family conversations go south. BE the difference maker in your not so perfect holiday.

Make sure you pray both before and during the holiday about your concerns. I know most my worries and concerns are relieved when I just take time to pray. Holiday relationships can be tough, but please know that God is ready and available to walk with you through your not so perfect holiday season. God comforts us when we’re downcast. (2 Corinthians 7:5-6) He doesn’t chide us or hide from us. He comforts us! He is the “Father of mercies and the God of all comfort.” (2 Corinthians 1:3) Even when things aren’t the way we want them to be, God can give us perfect peace.

Take time to share your concern with a trusted friend. Admit that your struggling and name it. Don’t be ashamed! Ask for prayer. Get advice. I did this today and I received from a friend a whole new way to look at my situation! God can encourage us through our friends!

Father in Heaven, help us be honest about our feelings, expectant of your comfort and thankful for the gift of friendship and family. Alert us this week to all the many blessings we’ve been given and help us remember to give you thanks. Help us be sensitive to the needs of others around us, even the cranky aunt or child out of control. Remind us that you are able to work in us and walk with us through these holidays and give us joy, even amidst difficulties. Thank you, God, for your goodness! We praise you this Thanksgiving for life itself. From your not so perfect child. Amen.

Nancy Abbott is the Chaplain of the YMCA of Greater San Antonio.

HEB Shopper Fail

I had a major HEB shopper fail last week that made me want to crawl away, hide and never return. I take full responsibility for my shopper fail. Hopefully, it will never happen again.

I had a pretty full cart and made a beeline for the register that was almost empty. Yahoo, I was in luck! No one in line! So, I pulled in with the cart and unloaded my 50 or so items. When about ready to pay, I looked up and noticed the lighted box above the register: 15 items or less.  I looked at the cashier and said, “I am so sorry! I somehow missed that sign altogether! I would have happily taken this to another register.” She was very kind to me and off I went, a remorseful shopper.

I get it. We all make mistakes. But, I totally had a shopper fail that day. It was such an obvious mistake that the apology came quickly. But, sometimes, the apology doesn’t come quickly. Maybe you know what I mean. There are times when it’s super hard to ask for forgiveness. We hem and we haw and we put it off and we think to ourselves…. It wasn’t THAT big of a deal what I did. I won’t say anything.

Yet apologizing is so liberating! It frees up your mind to focus on more important things. It makes awkward moments with the injured party vanish away. (I am free to roam about HEB now, not even thinking about my shopper fail.) It releases the judgment others might hold against you. And, it puts you in right relationship with God and others when we chose to forgive.

Beth Moore writes “Never underestimate the power of an apology. Few of us want to pump our fists and cheer on our deathbeds,  ‘Woohoo! I never did say I was sorry for that!’ The proud are so lonely. They won’t admit it but they are. No one’s more alone that the one who views an apology as caving.”

As we enter into this holiday season, it might be time to make wrongs right …. with a family member, friend or co-worker. Break through the weirdness and initiate like Jesus did in the Gospels. He always showed love and He always initiated even with those who treated Him poorly. He spoke about forgiveness too, saying not seven times, but seventy times seven! (Matthew 18:22)

Let’s enter this holiday season asking God to give us a humble, forgiving spirit. Be quick to apologize for your wrongs.  Be a restorer in relationships, not a withholder. Remember, when you forgive, you are released from your own prison.

“Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other just as in Christ, God forgave you.” Ephesians 4:32

Nancy Abbott is the Chaplain of the YMCA of Greater San Antonio

The Cowboys and the Cat

Once upon a time, there was a football game that took place on the East Coast. The Cowboys had come with visions of beating the Giants. The Cowboys truly looked like Cowboys and crushed the Giants by many, many points. Sadly, no one seemed to care. It was a large black cat that appeared out of nowhere on the field that stole the show.

The black cat’s 15 minutes of fame took over social media. The cat zigzagged across the turf, refusing to be captured. Kevin Harlan, of Westwood One Sports Radio, even had a play by play for the cat “A state trooper has come on the field and the cat runs into the end zone. That is a touchdown!” After the cat's touchdown, it found an opening and escaped, never to be seen again by football fans.

The next day, nobody seemed to care about the Cowboys win. Everyone was talking about the cat. The Cowboys were upstaged by a cat!

How does it feel to be left out? When your opinion doesn’t matter? When you're not noticed? When you're upstaged by someone else?

Pride is just so human, isn’t it? It is this battle with pride that reminds me of my need with God. God freely gives humility. We only need ask. The Bible says “Honor others before yourself.” (Romans 12:10) In Philippians 2:3 it says “Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others better than yourselves.”

Do you notice when your pride rises to the surface and you feel hurt? It’s in that moment, when God wants to rescue you from pride. It is God who helps us be a servant of one another. It is God who helps us rejoice with those who succeed more than us. It is God who helps us enjoy making others a success. It is God who helps us respond in humility.

President Truman said “You can accomplish anything in life, provided you do not mind who gets the credit.” Timothy Keller says that humility is: “For it not to matter whether it was their success or your success. Not to care if they did it or you did it. You are so happy they did it as if you did it yourself.”

Let’s not care when the black cat steals the show. Ask God for the gift of humility.

Nancy Abbott is the Chaplain of the YMCA of Greater San Antonio.

Jesus, Take the Wheel

It seems that we eventually have a moment in life where we need Jesus to take the wheel. “Jesus, Take the Wheel”,(written by James, Lindsey and Sampson) recorded by American country music artist Carrie Underwood, tells the story of that “moment” when she sees her life flash before her and fear sets in:

“Jesus, take the wheel

Take it from my hands

‘Cause I can’t do this on my own

I’m letting go

So give me one more chance

Save me from this road I’m on

Jesus, take the wheel.

The real honest truth is that we often think we can handle our own wheel, thank you very much. We’re self sufficient, able, strong, intelligent and capable. We have careers and all sorts of initials after our name. We’re doing fine with our own wheel! Why would we need Jesus?

At the same time, we make mistakes and botch things up. We know we do, as much as we try to hide that part of ourselves. We don’t know what we don’t know. We live in our “rightness” if only in our minds, missing out on the amazing life offered to us if we let go of our wheel.

What if God took control of your life? What if He set the course for your life? Knowing the greatness and sovereignty of our God, there is no other One that I would want to control my life. No One.

“Jesus, Take the Wheel” shouldn’t just be our last ditch effort when things get bad and we’re desperate for God. “Jesus Take the Wheel” is plea for each day. I need God each day to direct me, guide me, love me, and care for me. And when I’m tempted to go on side-trips of comparison, pride, envy, discontentment, jealousy and gossip, I plead with Jesus to take my wheel. When I live with unforgiveness, anger and resentment, I cry out for Jesus to take the wheel. When I judge others for their wrongdoings, but fail to see my own, I once again ask Jesus to take the wheel.

Lord, would you take the wheel of my heart? Set the course you wish for me to go. Get me to your destination of choice. You know me more than I  know myself. You know what’s best for me. Forgive me for the times I try to grab the wheel wanting what I want. Redirect me to every good thing you offer me in Christ. Lord, direct my steps. Your ways are blameless. You are a shield to all who take refuge in You. (Psalm 18:30) Open me up to the idea of you taking the wheel of my life. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

Nancy Abbott is the Chaplain of the YMCA of Greater San Antonio.

Thoughts Run Amuck

When things go amuck, they are wildly out of control. This past week, my thoughts ran amuck and I didn’t know how to stop them.

A week ago, our sweet English Springer, Zoe, had abdominal surgery to remove a mass. Unfortunately, the mass was very closely connected with the stomach and pancreas and there was no way they could get it out. We were given a dismal diagnosis for our 5 year old pup. Our hearts are broken.

So, what do I do with those thoughts about the future? When will she die? How will she die? Will she be alone or will we be there? Will she suffer? How long will we have her? As the days passed, I finally recognized my thought life and how fear had settled in.

God somehow reminded me of the word SAVOR. He wants me to savor the moments I have with Zoe. Could I relish with pleasure these moments when I can pet her and love on her? Could I remember that each day is a gift and I’m not even guaranteed tomorrow myself? Could I look at her with joy for her being alive today, not dread what’s to come?

God also reminded me to be GRATEFUL. Zoe arrived on the day the Spurs won the 2014 championship. It was a grand day in every way! We have so many great memories and packed so much life and service into these last 5 years. Zoe, as a therapy dog, has been able to minister to so many and share beautiful unconditional love. My husband and I have so much to be grateful for!

Finally, God drew me back to thinking on WHAT IS TRUE. Philippians 4: 8 says “Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable- if anything is excellent or praiseworthy- think about such things.”  God captured my thought life this week to remind me of a better way. "Nothing is more daily, critical and transforming than our thought lives." (Scotty Smith) This hit me! I CAN walk through this difficult season, feeling pain and yet at the same time, thinking on what is true.

As I walk into this new normal, I do so remembering that God’s ways are always best and He can always be trusted. I prayed for a different outcome, but God is not answering my prayer the way I wanted. That doesn't mean He isn't still good. God is always good! I just needed God's word to shape my thinking when my thinking had run amuck with fear and dread. 

How have your thoughts run amuck? How has fear taken over your thinking? In what way are you frightened about the future? Will you invite God into your thought life and ask Him for help?

Nancy Abbott is the Chaplain of the YMCA of Greater San Antonio

Costumes We Keep

So, this is the week of crazy costumes! Whether driving down the freeway, getting a Starbucks or showing up at a Halloween party, it’s the week of the costume!

Costume parties are so much fun! Everyone is in character and doing things they might not normally do. There’s a feeling attached with wearing a costume that feels delightfully free! We can hide behind the mask and be someone we’re not…for a while.

But sometimes, we hide behind our own personal costumes that we erect. We don’t even know what we don’t know about ourselves. Others may see it; but we miss it. We may not even know that we’re hiding anything!

Pete Scazzero, in the book ‘The Emotionally Healthy Leader’ writes “One of the great truths of life is this: You cannot change what you are unaware of." The process of becoming aware of your true self requires both courage and hard work. Scazerro also writes “Using brain imaging, researchers have documented how our brains are rewired when we learn to name our feelings.

Do you name your feelings or hide them? Just consider some of the questions below as you spend time with God. How might God help you consider and respond to these questions: (The Emotionally Healthy Leader, pp. 71)

• What am I feeling? And what am I feeling about that feeling?
• What am I sad about? Glad about? Angry about? Anxious about?
• Where in my body am I feeling tension or stress (e.g., shoulders, neck, stomach)? What might this be telling me about what is going on inside of me?

There was a period in my own life where I set aside feelings to simply exist. I don’t think I even knew that I was doing this! As I’ve taken more time over the years to become healthy in my spirit, mind and body, I’ve seen the value of my “feeling” muscles. There’s more peace and greater freedom as I no longer suppress them.

What are the costumes you keep? I find such comfort in knowing that nothing is hidden from my God. So, why hide? God loves to come along side us and build into us a new place of maturity in our brokenness. He is all about freedom!

“Call to me and I will answer you and tell you great and unsearchable things you do not know.” Jeremiah 33:3

Nancy Abbott is the Chaplain for the YMCA of Greater San Antonio.

Hold On To Your Faith

Sometimes, I admit, it’s hard to trust God. I can pray and pray about something and yet struggle to believe God will answer my prayer. I keep praying, but deep down, I can doubt God at times.

This last week, we found out that our precious dog Zoe has a mass on her liver. She’s only 5 years old and we’re a bit shocked at the test results. We’re praying like crazy that God would heal through surgical means. But will He?

I need to remind myself of a proven fact today. Luke 1:37 says “Nothing will be impossible with God.” Beth Moore writes “He delights in defying the odds stacked against us. If we’re growing out of our belief that He can do the impossible, we’re not growing. We’re shrinking. Hold onto your faith.”

How often have you mentally checked in your head these words, “This is impossible” regarding your current situation? Where do you need God to do something BIG in your work, relationships, future, finances, etc? Where do you need to hold on to your faith and NOT LET GO?

For me personally, I need to start this week knowing that God is and can be trusted, no matter what the outcome. Turning to Scriptures helps me. Check out these Scriptures and make them your prayer today.

"Trust in him at all times, O people; pour out your heart before him; God is a refuge for us.” Psalm 62:8

"God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble.” Psalm 46:1

"In the day of my trouble I call upon you, for you answer me.” Psalm 86:7

"Peace I leave with you; my peace I give to you. Not as the world gives do I give to you. Let not your hearts be troubled, neither let them be afraid.” John 14:27

"Taste and see that the Lord is good; blessed is the one who takes refuge in Him." Psalm 34:8

May God bless you and help you run to Him with every challenge in your life, big or small! He is faithful and trustworthy..... always. Hold on to your faith! 

Nancy Abbott is the Chaplain of the YMCA of Greater San Antonio.

Love Your Neighbor

I saw this cool graphic that I thought was pertinent for each one of us. It said:

Love your neighbor- Who doesn’t look like you, think like you, love like you, speak like you, pray like you, vote like you. Love your neighbor. No exceptions.

How do we love our neighbor with no exceptions? Let me be honest. It’s hard for me to love EVERYONE all the time. I fall short consistently in the loving department. How about you? How about your friend that betrayed you? Your ex that makes everything extra hard? Your family member who hasn’t spoken to you? Think for a moment about those in your life hard to love. Not easy, right?

There’s a familiar story in the Bible that can help us learn how to love our neighbor. The Good Samaritan story takes place in Luke 10:25-37. Picture yourself sitting in on this conversation with Jesus and the unloving religious person, aka, the lawyer.

The lawyer was trying to test Jesus. The lawyer was a so-called “expert” in the law of God, so he asked Jesus what He should do to inherit eternal life, knowing full well the answer! Jesus, the greatest teacher of all time and on to the man’s schemes, answered the questions with a question. He asked him what was written in the law and the lawyer said with his head held high and all the piousness he could muster: “Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength and with all your mind and love your neighbor as yourself” (Luke 10:27)

Jesus affirmed that he was correct. But the lawyer wanted to justify himself knowing full well he couldn’t keep these commands. So, he tried to limit the law’s demands to justify himself. “Who is my neighbor?” Kind of like saying: “Hey, Jesus, where do I draw the line on this loving stuff? Certainly not everyone?”

So Jesus told a parable to correct the lawyer’s wrong viewpoint of who his neighbor was. He told about a traveler on his way from Jerusalem to Jericho, who fell among robbers. He was stripped of his clothes, beaten and left half dead. A priest came by, saw the man and continued on. A Levite came by and saw the man and kept going. Finally, a Samaritan came upon the man, and when he saw him, took pity on him and bandaged up his wounds. He put the man on his own donkey, took him to an inn and took care of him. He then gave the innkeeper two silver coins asking him to look after him and take care of any extra expenses that he might have. (BTW, did you know that Samaritans and the Jews pretty much hated each other and the Samaritan probably took care of a Jew?)

Jesus and the unloving religious person wrap up the visit with Jesus asking “Which of the three men do you think was a neighbor to the man who fell upon robbers? The unloving religious person said “The man who showed compassion.”  Jesus responded by saying “Go and do likewise.”

What if we saw ALL people through the lens of God’s love, not our prejudices and biases? What if we asked God where we’ve been a hypocrite, like the lawyer? Do you suppose He might tell us? What if we started caring for the castaways, throwaways and giveaways in our midst? And finally, what if we asked God for opportunities to BE a Good Samaritan this week? Do you suppose He may give us those opportunities?

I’ve come to believe in my own life that it’s hard to love my neighbor without loving God. God is love and as I ask Him, He delights in helping me love like He loves. I believe He can help us all love our neighbor in ways we never dreamed possible!

Nancy Abbott is the Chaplain for the YMCA of Greater San Antonio.

Pumpkins and Pause

HEB really tempted me about a month ago to believe that fall was on its way. Every grocery experience began with an enticing pumpkin aroma that made me long for fall. But, it was August, and South Texas and still around 100 degrees. Alas, fall was in the far distant future….

I finally broke down this weekend and bought some mini-pumpkins. Keep in mind, I already am using the Pumpkin-ish Bath and Body scents around the house and by the end of the weekend, I’ll be decorated for fall. Not to mention, it’s time to pull out those oh so yummy pumpkin recipes! Did I mention that my husband hates pumpkin?

Why do I love this time of year so much? What is it about pumpkins that just make me happy? Maybe it’s the reminder that a new season is here, cooler, cozier and complete with fall sorts of things. Even more important, I love lighting a candle, cozying up in a blanket and reading a good book, while listening to the pitter-patter of rain at the window.

When I take the time to pause and enjoy the treasures of fall, I remember that it’s OK to relax. I remember that the world will go on quite well today if I don’t get my to-do list done. And even in my busy season, I will choose to make rest and the things I love a priority.

Why do we always have to be doing something? What would it look like to include 'pause' in your life? When we include God in our rest, it can be vibrant and life changing! He actually invites us to join Him in rest: “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest….” (Matthew 11:28) Our confidence in trusting God for our schedules frees us from over-activity that wreaks havoc on our joy. Who doesn’t want to enjoy times of refreshment?

Maybe you need pumpkins and pause in your life this season? Don’t let the days run away from you! This season will never pass this way again. Seize the day, grab a pumpkin and pause.

“If you can’t take time to do nothing, you’re a slave to doing. Doing nothing is a radical, revolutionary act. It frees you from the universal slavery of our age: slavery to the clock. The clock measures doing, but not being.” Peter Kreeft

“Be still, and know that I am God.” Psalm 46:10

 Nancy Abbott is the Chaplain for the YMCA of Greater San Antonio.

Filling the Void

I begrudgingly put on my running shoes for a morning walk. It just wasn’t right going without Zoe, my Springer Spaniel. After all, she ALWAYS goes on walks with me. I forced myself to walk out the door and get it over with.

Zoe had become very ill last week with a bacterial infection and ended up in the animal hospital for most of the week. Her liver levels were extremely high and at one point, we were concerned if she would survive. So, this walk was just an aching reminder of her absence.

I immediately called my dad for our regular chat. After that, I called a friend, but no answer. Drats! For the remainder of the walk, I turned on the radio. Nothing wrong with calling my dad, a friend or turning on the radio. It was just my way of filling the void.

What do you do when you feel a void? Some people resort to alcohol. Others look to unhealthy relationships. Some just busy themselves with activity. Others focus on their stuff. It’s also tempting to think our professional role satisfies our lack. What is your default for filling the void?

The other day on my walk, I was searching for anything to take away my loneliness. God’s word says  “You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart.” (Jeremiah 29:13) Matthew 6:33 says “But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you.”  Why don’t I run to God first with what I lack?

I didn’t even realize how I was hiding from pain! My “go to idols” never seem to satisfy even though I always give them a try! What if you and I trusted FIRST in God’s goodness and power with what we lack? We don’t just have to grit our teeth and hang on. God wants to walk with us and carry us through everything! 

Elyse Fitzpatrick writes “Idols aren’t just stone statutes. No, idols are the thoughts, desires, longings, and expectations that we worship in the place of the true God. Idols cause us to ignore the true God in search of what we think we need. If we think we need to be loved, more than we need a thriving relationship with God, then we have made the idea of love an idol that we worship over God. We can make other people our gods too, by loving them more than Him.” (Idols of the Heart)

I challenge you to focus on Psalm 23 this week. Read it out loud, over and over. Say a verse or two and then pause to allow God to speak to you. Lean into the all-sufficient Shepherd. He can fill any void. 

Nancy Abbott is the Chaplain of the YMCA of Greater San Antonio

Face to Face

It’s so easy to find our social media practices as our primary way of connecting with people. I have to admit I’ve loved being able to connect with old friends from high school and former places that I’ve lived on social media. But, I also see how social media can intercept the face-to-face connections that we need with people. Just last week, I felt the need to call an old friend, rather than text her a short message. Sometimes, it's just better.

We’re so in touch with people, yet so not in touch with people at the same time. I must be old, but rarely do we call people anymore to just ask “How are you doing? or “I just want to thank you for…..”  It’s easier to give a “like” on facebook, than take the time to actually ASK someone about their special occasion.

Beth Moore writes “We still need face to face, legit, warm flesh and blood friendships. We still need someone to hold our hand when we’re broken-hearted, to laugh with us til we cry or cry with us til we laugh. We need people with whom we’re safe. A screen can’t do that for us. Friends>phones.”  Sometimes, I need that reminder. I can get so busy that I miss this! I long to be this type of safe friend for others.

What keeps us from having these face-to face connections? People are longing for safe people to be face to face with. As a chaplain, one of the things I always say to people when I meet with them is that what they say to me is held in confidence. I think people fear sharing their true self for fear of their secret being shared. Secondly, I think we fear being open about our own brokenness. When we share our stuff, it allows others to know that they’re not alone! When we’re open about our own mistakes, struggles and shortcomings, we allow others to know they’re not alone.

What would our relationships, work and family like look like if you initiated with others with Christ’s love? How would your relationships change if you practiced keeping confidences and loving others well? Who might you initiate with by picking up the phone or setting a lunch date? What family member might need to hear from you?

Ally Yarid writes “What Jesus did not say: Love one another when it’s convenient, you benefit, and they love you back. What Jesus did say: Love one another JUST AS I HAVE LOVED YOU. Loving one another wasn’t a suggestion, it was a command. Treat it as such.” How might you love well this week?

Nancy Abbott is the Chaplain of the YMCA of Greater San Antonio.

When Hurricanes Come

I’ve found myself checking the Weather Channel more than normal lately. Usually, in South Texas this time of year, the weather is about the same and there is absolutely no need to check. Sunny and hot. Hot and sunny.

But with Dorian on the loose, I’ve been checking the weather with a bit of fear for those in its path. I pray this morning for those in the Bahamas and along the East coast that God would care for those that lost loved ones or experienced other horrific loss.

I read that Dorian was the slowest, strongest hurricane to ever hit the Bahamas. No one seemed to know where or when Dorian would hit. I can’t imagine all the feelings one goes through when you’re faced with a hurricane coming your way. Do we stay? Do we go? Will we lose everything? Will we survive? Hurricanes are such a reminder that we’re never ever fully in control.

Some hurricanes happen in our environment, but many hurricanes are in our own minds. They may occur in our homes, our work, our health and our hearts. We have our own fears and catch ourselves worrying about many things that never actually happen. Yet, when those challenging things do happen, what do we do?

I can’t help but think of the verse found in 1 Peter 5:7 that says  “Cast all your anxiety on Him because He cares for you.”  ‘Casting’ actually means to throw upon and to deposit. God wants us to throw and deposit ALL our burdens upon Him. God literally wants us to have a target to which we direct our anxiety….that target is God Himself! (Bible Knowledge Commentary, Grant Richison)

When faced with challenges too big for us to handle, God wants to be the One we go to! We move from trusting in our own resources (which fail) to resting in God and His resources.

What are you facing today that is bigger than you can handle? What mental hurricanes have threatened to wreak havoc on your mind?  Did you know that God is willing to partner with you and carry your biggest burden? Just ask.

Nancy Abbott is the Chaplain of the YMCA of Greater San Antonio

Million Dollar Baby

I  suppose one of the most memorable moments in my life was meeting my birthfather, Charles. When I set out to pursue finding him, I had no idea how quickly it would happen! However, there was a slight twist. He lived in the bush in Queensland, Australia! Before I knew it, he had planned a trip to the states to visit family and meet me.

It was a pretty special meeting moment outside a small hotel off the 91 Freeway near Fullerton, California, where I lived at the time. It was dinnertime, so off we went to a nearby Mexican restaurant, where Charles filled me in on my unknown past. Charles shared that my birth mom, Dolly, needed money because her pregnancy caused an end to her career, a professional dancer.

He shared that he had saved a considerable amount of money and had invested it in the stock market. He got some wise advice and invested in the first computer business located in the Silicon Valley. When he sold it, it had nearly doubled. Had he kept those shares another ten years, he would have been quite a wealthy man. He looked at me with a twinkle in his blue eyes and said “You’re a million dollar baby and worth every penny of it.”

Those words just broke me. Tears ensued. Million Dollar Baby. I’ll treasure those words forever, realizing that both Charles and Dolly gave up so much, for me to be born.

There are times, however, that I don’t feel like a million dollar baby. I can start comparing myself with others and come up short. I can worry about what others may think. I can feel shame or blame for the silliest of things. I can feel that I just don’t matter.

As I grow in relationship with God, I learn that my identity is in Christ, not in all the other labels that others (or myself) may give me! Check out just Christ says about us:

In Christ, I’m a new creation. (2 Corinthians 5:17)

I’m forgiven. (Ephesians 1:8)

I have peace. (Ephesians 2:14)

I am not alone. (Hebrews 13:5) I

I am holy and blameless. (Ephesians 1:4)

I am adopted as His child. (Ephesians 1:5)

I have purpose. (Ephesians 1:9 and 3:11)

I have hope. (Ephesians 1:12)

I am Christ’s workmanship. (Ephesians 2:10)

I can be humble, gentle, patient and lovingly tolerant of others. (Ephesians 4:2)

Immerse yourself in the truths of these Scripture.  It’s time to know Whose and who you are! It’s Christ alone that can make you a new creature. You’re a treasure to Him! You’re more than a million dollar baby….He gave His LIFE for you and me. Will you enjoy this amazing relationship?

Nancy Abbott is the Chaplain of the YMCA of Greater San Antonio.